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User Topic: This would only happen to me
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I took pictures of my DD's best friend crossing the finish line at this morning's half marathon. Thought it was important to be there since her parents couldnt. Looking at the pics when I get home I see OW #1 in the background with her kids, waiting for her buffoon of a husband to cross.
I thought I saw her there but didn't know and now I see her on pictures I took.
Asked fwh and he didn't see her. I said I shouldn't have to EVER see them! He said I know And its all my fault. We were having a great time this weekend at our towns celebration.
grrrrr......

[This message edited by rachelc at 11:19 AM, June 30th (Sunday)]


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


Posts: 5778 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

:( That sucks; I'm sorry. Photoshop?


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6972 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
cantaccept
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Default  Posted: 11:25 AM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((rachelc)))

I have no advice just empathy. I have found that since dday life is just a bit too ironic. Things come up and bite you in the a$$ when you least expect it.


"So often times it happens, that we live our lives in chains and we never even know we have the key"

I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh boots5050
attempted R, it was all a lie

Divorced!


Posts: 1598 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ha! My DD just tagged me in a picture of me watching her friend cross the finish line - the photographer must have taken it- and OW is there too. Yay! now OW is in a picture on my Facebook page. Nice.... I asked her to untag me....
And as fwh was there too, he is also tagged so OW is now on his page too. Ugh

[This message edited by rachelc at 2:28 PM, June 30th (Sunday)]


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


Posts: 5778 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 6:11 PM, June 30th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

'Buffoon of a husband' - that cracks me up, rache. Thanks.

No idea what to do about FB.


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10764 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
RockyMtn
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Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can you untag yourself? I can't remember if that's possible. I do know I used to have my settings where I'd have to approve all tags (in posts, photos, etc.) before they went live. Not that this helps now, but it could prevent it in the future.

I laughed at the buffoon part, too.


Me, BS, 30s
Him, WS, 30s, Steppenwolf
Kids: Yep
D-Day 1: September 2011, 6 week EA
D-Day 2: January 2013, discovered EA was a PA; there was another PA in 2010. All TT.
Goal = serenity.

Posts: 667 | Registered: Oct 2012
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 7:50 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Photoshop?
Exactly what I was thinking. Replace her. Just think of all the images you could replace her with.

In all seriousness, I'm sorry this happened. So not cool.


"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

Posts: 6532 | Registered: Nov 2011
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 7:54 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I removed it from my timeline but I can't untag myself. DD has to do that. I also can't edit another person's photo on FB and I destroyed my pics.

I told fWH that I had a great weekend with him but that this thing really hurt me. I can't get away from them.

He didn't say anything. What is there to say. I said I hope this isn't a death by 1000 cuts for me.


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


Posts: 5778 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
painpaingoaway
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Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Get that 'make me fat' app, make her fat, and repost.

And yes, the 'buffoon' comment also cracked me up! I haven't heard that word in years, but I love it!

[This message edited by painpaingoaway at 7:57 AM, July 1st (Monday)]


me BS female 56/him WS 59
Married 34 years
D-day July 09/he gave me his slut's STD
Watch my movie: "My wayward husband's adventures in STD land":
Episode 1: youtu.be/9Jv0-d_CdYc
Episode 2: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8Tz822H82Gk

Posts: 7161 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Coastal South
FeelsSoRight
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Default  Posted: 10:07 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you can't phohtoshop it, can you crop it and crop her ugly ass out altogether?


Me - W - 48
Him - H - 47
Together since we were 14/15
Married 27 yrs in August (renewed our vows in 2011-H's idea!)
DD-23, DS-15
Separated for 7 mos & were 3 wks from divorce when we reconciled
Happily R for almost 4 years

Posts: 1451 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: MO
JanaGreen
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Default  Posted: 10:57 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Get that 'make me fat' app, make her fat, and repost.

YES!


We're both in our 30s. One awesome 5-year-old daughter. Baby Green 2.0 expected June 2015!!!!!!!!!

Posts: 6972 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Somewhere in the South
authenticnow
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Red  Posted: 2:45 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

FeelsSoRight,

There is no OW namecalling in R. Please follow the Reconciliation Forum guidelines.

Thank you.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 38995 | Registered: Sep 2007
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't want to waste any time on her. I just feel I shouldn't be subjected to ever seeing EITHER of them. I just saw her kids at the pool. Ok.
I also am thinking about the thread on the choices we make. If the choice I make is stating with my husband, must I also accept all this?

As I said in the other thread, after what I've been through, it shouldn't be this hard to stay together....


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


Posts: 5778 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
sisoon
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Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((rachelc)))


fBH (me) - 70 (22 in my head), fWW (plainsong) - 65+, Married 45+, together since 1965
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and R'ed
I share my own experience because it's the only experience I know, not because I'm a good model.

Posts: 10764 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Chicago area
karmahappens
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Default  Posted: 8:10 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh....effing pictures.

My dday was at a huge block party my neighbor has.

He is not our friend or a friend of the marriage anymore (probably never was).

After dday I found out just how many people knew about the A. That fact made me need to vomit, separate from the A

About 2 weeks later my neighbor posted pics of the party....it included pics of me and OW together, happy, smiling. He tagged it and said "happy neighbors"

And he knew.....Bastard.

It took me a few years to stop looking at it. I never said anything to him because I know he did it to be mean....and I didn't want him to have the satisfaction.

ugh!!


“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3872 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
crazyblindsided
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((rachelc))) Ugh you can't seem to catch a break. These OW always in these photos, newspapers and whatnot.


BS/FWS (me):40 Madhatter
WS/BS:42 Serial Cheater
Together 18 years, Married 13
DD(10) DS(7)
DDay(s) 5/08, 5/09, 3/30/12
Final Dday 7/11/14 Affair never ended

Posts: 2266 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: California
rachelc
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Default  Posted: 12:41 AM, July 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My IC says when I've had enough ill know....,


his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Follow your intuition. Be smart, be brave. Tell the truth and don’t take any shit.”


Posts: 5778 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest
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