One big surprise about being divorced is that my XWH does not take the kids for summer vacation time. In the parenting agreement, we each are allowed to have the kids to ourselves for up to three weeks over the summer, whether taken in one big block of time or several smaller ones.
Even with this flexibility built into our agreement, for the past three years my XWH has ignored the arrival of summer and carries on seeing DD once or twice a month. He sees DS about once every three months, mostly because DS doesn't like to go to his father's house.
He doesn't take them on trips any other time of the year, either. The holidays when it's his turn to take them, as per the parenting agreement, he usually declines to do so.
When we were married, we took lots of trips together as a family to see family out of state, or Hawaii, Mexico, even Europe. Now, I do what I can to organize vacation trips for me and my kids, but I can't afford to do it more than once a year, if that, and our destinations are mostly nearby and budget-priced.
How common is it for a father to decline to take his kids on vacation after the divorce? He and his second wife travel plenty on their own.
[This message edited by josie11 at 5:54 PM, June 30th (Sunday)]