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Summer vacation time - does your ex take the kids?

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josie11 posted 6/30/2013 17:52 PM

One big surprise about being divorced is that my XWH does not take the kids for summer vacation time. In the parenting agreement, we each are allowed to have the kids to ourselves for up to three weeks over the summer, whether taken in one big block of time or several smaller ones.

Even with this flexibility built into our agreement, for the past three years my XWH has ignored the arrival of summer and carries on seeing DD once or twice a month. He sees DS about once every three months, mostly because DS doesn't like to go to his father's house.

He doesn't take them on trips any other time of the year, either. The holidays when it's his turn to take them, as per the parenting agreement, he usually declines to do so.

When we were married, we took lots of trips together as a family to see family out of state, or Hawaii, Mexico, even Europe. Now, I do what I can to organize vacation trips for me and my kids, but I can't afford to do it more than once a year, if that, and our destinations are mostly nearby and budget-priced.

How common is it for a father to decline to take his kids on vacation after the divorce? He and his second wife travel plenty on their own.

[This message edited by josie11 at 5:54 PM, June 30th (Sunday)]

inconnu posted 6/30/2013 18:26 PM

Ex took the kids on vacation the summer right after the divorce was final. I don't think he originally planned to, though. I think he and now-wifetress made plans, and his parents questioned why weren't the boys going. It's even possible the grandparents paid for the boys' flights.

That was 3 years ago. My kids haven't been on a vacation since.

devistatedmom posted 6/30/2013 19:46 PM

The first summer after he moved out he took the kids for 1 week, but dropped by my house twice.

The second summer he took them to a cottage with his girlfriend.

Last summer and this summer, he didn't/isn't taking them at all. Last year he used his vacation to get a vasectomy, this summer, I'm really not sure what his excuse is.

josie11 posted 6/30/2013 23:06 PM

I have to wonder if having teenage kids along spoils the wonder of it all for my ex and his OWife.

There's definitely no love lost between my teens and their "stepmother." They can't stand being around her. Maybe that's the problem.

lifestoshort posted 6/30/2013 23:22 PM

mine doesnt take his. im lucky if he shows up the couple days a week he is assigned! he typically misses 20 days a yr of the 92 he is awarded.

ExposedNiblet posted 7/1/2013 13:39 PM

The agreement says that XH takes them a minimum of one week during summer holidays.

XH takes them a maximum of one week during summer holidays, usually less. Both kids seem okay with short little "bursts" of dad-time.

It used to bother me, but now, not so much.

It is what it is.

lostmommy posted 7/1/2013 14:29 PM

XH refused his summer vacation in its entirety with the exception of his standard EOW because I wouldn't agree to his ridiculous demands.

thenon-goddess posted 7/1/2013 15:52 PM

We are not D'd yet, but he has already said I can have full custody and he would not want overnights with them because, is his exact words, "what am I supposed to do with them!?" When he watches the kids it's "babysitting for" me. This past Saturday he babysat for a few hours so I could get
Coffee with a friend. That is about
the extent of his parenting.

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