What pisses me off, is that one of the my H's OW was a high school classmate of ours and still lives in the same area where we grew up. Hubby and I have blocked her from FB, email and other social media sites, but every once in a while something pops up that really gets me hot. On FB there is an app that a lot of my friends use, called SchoolFeed. On this site, if you don't restrict your pictures on FB, SchoolFeed will access all of your photos. Random pics from your albums can be displayed and used as a fun thing for former classmates to vote on and view. Blocking someone on FB doesn't apply apparently to SchoolFeed. Yesterday, pictures from OW's FB album was displayed, a picture of the two of them in Hawaii and one of my H posing with her son at her home. All I could do was sit there with my mouth hanging open, then the anger and tears set in. Why in the hell is she doing still displaying pictures of my H in her Facebook photos!?! It has been 18 months since he has last heard from her and she still has pictures of him on her account. I hate still getting a punch in the stomach by her, and the fact that she got away scott-free from the mess she made in my life. I also hate feeling so bitter, there are so many days where she never crosses my mind. I can go weeks without thinking about the EA & PA that they had for two years, but then a random thing like this will happen and I'm a emotional mess all over again. Anyone else have problems with Social Media and it's backlash on your recovery?
[This message edited by blking at 7:19 PM, June 30th (Sunday)]
You can block the school feed app to avoid her. Just go to your application settings.
[This message edited by anonymous823 at 7:15 PM, June 30th (Sunday)]
me (WW/BS): 48
4 kiddos in mid 20's
“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”
without FB, I would never know what was going on with them (both of our kids attend college in our hometown as well).
Why not use good ol' email? FB isn't your only option. Email may not have all the bells and whistles but it beats having to see any of OW's postings.
Anyone else have problems with Social Media and it's backlash on your recovery?
Absolutely. My solution was to close my account. To this day, I still avoid social networking sites due to the OW and her antics. I highly doubt I'll ever open an account again, but I'm okay with it.
BTW, my D-day was five years ago.
It is just every once in a while she pops up in the oddest ways. Another example is a dance group I was involved in when my family and I lived overseas; but I noticed that she has joined the group as recently as 6 months ago. As far as I know, she has no affiliation with or knows anyone in the group/class, other than me and my daughter, and would probably never know anything about it if she hadn't been looking at our FB pages. (It is a professional teen/adult modern dancing troupe from Japan) I have since made a lot of my posts and pictures private to myself and friends only. It just makes me so angry that I have to either chose to alter my life online completely to avoid her or "just deal with it" and move on. I feel that I am on the right track of dealing with it, but every once in awhile it just gets to me. Why do I have to be the one to bend to her irrational behavior when I didn't do anything to her other than Not put up with her BS? Just venting here a bit since I just don't understand this type of behavior in "adults".