ETA: Now I'm wondering if they just didn't rehire the teacher or if she left. A lot of school districts will do that to untenured teachers...let them go so they won't have to pay more and just stay over again.
[This message edited by TattoodChinaDoll at 10:13 PM, June 30th (Sunday)]
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
I work from home, but with my degree, I could definitely make more at another job not working from home. Child care, time traveling, gas, eating out, lunches, work clothes, all that comes into play in my decisions. I think it should for yours too.
I would definitely go ahead and apply, there and continue applying at other places, and weigh the pros and cons. Being at the same school is a definite plus, but you gotta crunch the numbers to figure out how much of a plus..
STBX has said over and over that if we divorce that the house would have to be sold and how that would contribute to financially crippling us (because of the housing market). I think it was his way of putting doubt in my mind. So I just tried to talk to him about this situation if I got a job at this school and the house. The way he talked about it I thought he knew something. Well guess what...he wouldn't admit to saying the stuff about selling the house. Just kept on saying how I'd be taken care of because the courts would be in my favor. I told him that the house thing was something he had repeatedly said and that is why I was asking. He says, "I might have said that. I don't remember. But I'm telling you now that you'll be taken care of because the courts will be on your side."
Thanks for reminding me again what a dick you are, Jerkface.
Definitely try for the job. Ask about substituting to make up the rest of the time if full time work is what you need. Or if there is money for a part time tutor. Sometimes combining two part time positions is possible.
The more I think about it, the more I see the manipulation. Poor him...won't be able to afford an apartment with what he has to pay for the house, CS, alimony....whatever..and has to live with his parents again. Ya know, he would always get mad at me for using the phrase, "consequences of your actions." Now I see why. Because that means he has to take responsibility and nothing is going to feed into his narcissism. He would literally be fuming when I used that phrase. Well douchebag...what do you think all of this is? You chose to have an affair with a coworker. You chose to TT. You chose not to try looking for a job. You chose to make up excuses for your emotional abuse and keep on doing it. These are fucking consequences, I'm moving on. I don't love you anymore. I want better than you. And I'M NOT SCARED OF YOU! Try and manipulate me all you want. Try your abusive tactics, I see you for what you are.
FWIW I work at my oldest kids school and it works great. I also started with 6 hours a week now 8 years later I am almost full time.
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Sometimes combining two part time positions is possible.
My friend did this for several years, she had teaching credentials but did not want the workload of a full teacher position, so she worked two different part time positions at the school.
Try your abusive tactics, I see you for what you are.
I LOVE this. It comes from a position of strength and confidence. "I see you now." Ah, I loved when I finally felt like that.
Good luck with the job hunting TCD! Don't be afraid to call up and say something like, "Hello. I applied not too long ago and I was wondering <xyz> about the job." Sometimes they get so many applications, and the ones that call in and actually talk to the hiring coordinator are the ones that get it since they are showing a true interest in the job and aren't just another resume in the stack of papers. Good luck!!
Go girl go.
[This message edited by Dark Inertia at 11:04 AM, July 1st (Monday)]
Even if you don't get it, interviewing and applying is a skill set and as you are starting to job hunt, honing those skills will be to your benefit when you find the perfect job - so you don't blow it on a rusty interview.
Eta: I've done big things with this job. A choir I directed sang at Lincoln Center in 2011
[This message edited by TattoodChinaDoll at 12:05 PM, July 1st (Monday)]
Not my ideal job, by any means. But as you say, it has some perks. You'll be on school hours, which will be better for child care. If you're a music teacher, you could consider filling up more of the intervening hours with private lessons and such.
And as others have noted, a part-time job is better than no job. Depending on what kind of contract they have you sign, you could keep looking for work even if you got the job (I'm assuming you wouldn't start until the fall when school starts).
Dbellanon - I hope you don't live in Jersey! I need this job...don't need competition!