Topic: You know there's no trust...
Member # 37439
| Posted: 3:52 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
When my wh butt dialled me and I've been listening to a static boring conversation for 20 mins
OW1 inadvertently let me know WH loves English breakfast tea. Never ever saw him drink it. And I never will.
Posts: 818 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 24924
| Posted: 6:44 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
I know the feeling.
Walk a Mile In My Shoes
Married 14 yrs. Now Separated & in NC
2 grown DD's - his from previous M
4 grown kids (2DS, 2DD) mine from previous M
Posts: 3204 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Ohio
Member # 38261
| Posted: 10:19 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
I once listened to a 15 minute voicemail accidentally left by WS while he was driving, then making idle conversation at the credit union.
Yes, its a sign of lack of trust, but also its an opportunity for him to make a deposit into the "trust bank" without him actually knowing.
I don't say much but I lurk around a lot. Thank you for baring your souls here, you've said the words I couldn't find and you've helped me heal more than I can say.
Me - BS
Him - FWS, serial long term EAs
Posts: 71 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 39702
| Posted: 11:36 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
I would do the same thing!
Me BW (36)
together 16 years
2 kids: 6 DD & 10 month DS
more TT: 6/13/13
more TT: 7/9/13
Posts: 40 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 32554
| Posted: 2:22 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
I did the same thing several years ago. Butt dial, I kept listening. Heard driving sounds, heard him insulting other drivers, heard him having a conversation with himself (he did this sometimes, and it's one reason why I sometimes think he's got a split personality). Kept listening until he pulled into the driveway. Bizarre.
Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
Posts: 10438 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 39214
| Posted: 4:52 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
i did this too! while he was at work but good thing he was just cursing out his buddies and laughing about how some guy messed up . or talking about how many reps the other can do in the gym lol
I'M ON THE FENCE
Posts: 278 | Registered: May 2013
Member # 34827
| Posted: 5:50 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
I've done the same thing.
I was actually wanting to hear something because I never get a slip up from him.
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank
Posts: 5347 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 33822
| Posted: 6:00 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013|
My FWH is a professional butt dialer...does it to me at least twice a week! And 2 1/2 years from DDay, I still listen. And we are doing good in R. I look forward to the day I don't need to listen. I like what Putto said about it being an opportunity to make a deposit in the trust bank
My WH (The KISA, NPD) 6 month EA in 2010
At least 2 other EAs in 2012 & 2013
Filed for D 7/2014
Divorce final 12/2014
Posts: 428 | Registered: Nov 2011
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