Since I have decided to give up on my M I have spent a lot more time reconnecting with old friends.
One of my old bf's was a guy in H.S. I haven't heard from him in 20+ years. Last year right after I found out about WH's EA this friend found me on fb.
He was engaged, excited, happy. I was blah miserable. I wished him well and returned focus to my M.
He contacted me yesterday very sad about "another failed relationship". It was nice to fall right back into our old being there for each other with our love troubles.
Later when we were done talking I poked around his page and "hers" and she still has her status as engaged, they are still fb friends, and now I am kind of uncomfortable with our conversation knowing more from being on SI. If he wants to chat again I want to be able to chat-smack him and say wtf if you are still engaged and messing around I'll be down in about 8 hours to smack you.
During a different part of my weekend I was out with another family for one of my son's activities. I was totally judging the husband the entire night based on the things I have learned here on SI.
I feel like I have been schooled so thoroughly I will never not be a cynical grump and now I have to mourn my innocence or something.
Do people go on to trust and make good decisions again?
I think maybe I need to ask at IC but sometimes you all have better answers!