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User Topic: Struggling with humiliation
♀ 19234
Member # 19234
Default  Posted: 11:39 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have experienced many emotions during R. However the past few days I feel an overwhelming sense of humiliation on so many levels. I feel humiliated that wh cheated on me. I feel humiliated imagining him with ow. Both the ea and pa ows. I feel humiliated that we had sex when he was not attracted to me and I had no idea. I feel humiliated that he thought so little of me. I feel humiated that I gave him a second chance and he did it again. I even strangely feel humiliated at mc. (Mc did nothing to make me feel that way). Wh is doing a lot of things right this time around in terms of R.
Why do I feel such deep humiliation?

Posts: 250 | Registered: Apr 2008
♀ 30826
Member # 30826
Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Because being treated with such disrespect,such a lack of regard for our emotional and physical well being, is humiliating. Giving another chance,only to have them shit all over it is humiliating.

Im humiliated too.

FWH 46
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.

Posts: 10105 | Registered: Jan 2011
Member # 38921
Default  Posted: 11:54 AM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have never been so humiliated in all my life.. To imagine him telling someone else about me and my M....hate him today..tomorrow????

Posts: 148 | Registered: Apr 2013
♀ 38139
Member # 38139
Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

me too. i agree with Confused. The complete and total lack of respect...the fact that the person who swore to love us intentionally made a choice they knew would cause such devastation.....the fact that it happened right under our did we not see it? how were we so blind? I think thats the most humiliating part for me. I feel so stupid.

I have read this here so many times, and i believe its was his choice. There was nothing you did to make him make that choice.

Me: BW
Him: WH
OW: My former "dear friend"/neighbor
Married 20+
Kids: 3
D-Day 12/2012
Committed to R 7/8/2013
"Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle"

Posts: 357 | Registered: Jan 2013
♀ 34353
Member # 34353
Default  Posted: 2:06 PM, July 1st (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You have nothing to feel ashamed about. He broke his vows, not you. I think all BS feel this way, but what I have learned going thru this is it doesn't matter if I gained weight, or was bitchy or whatever, he made the choice to cheat and I didn't do anything wrong.

Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA
Trying to reconcile

Posts: 1769 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
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