There are a few statements that my WH utters during discussions on the A. One of them that grates on my nerves the most is his "at the time" statement. I'll ask him something like, "Oh, hey, so you two were flirting all out in the open on Twitter?"
And he'll say, "Well, at the time, I didn't think of it as flirting. I was just being nice."
It grates on my FUCKING nerves, and I can't quite seem to articulate why. For some reason, I feel like he's giving himself a pass on how he acted merely because he "didn't know any better [at the time]". Like, just because you didn't know you were acting the ass doesn't cancel out that you were acting the fucking ass!!!
Am I wrong?
He just texted me back: "Fine, I won't discuss how I felt at the time anymore because its not helping, I admit I still did it and I take full responsibility of my actions and the consequences for it."
This is, of course, after months of - what I feel like - are piss poor attempts at showing me he actually wants to be here, but that's neither here nor there, and I'm having a very angry day/weeks/months. He's just pissing me off at the moment, and I can't pin down why. Maybe it's froma member's thread that I read about LTAs, and how they are a different beast altogether because the amount of shit that went into them, and then me making the realization that everything I'd ever asked him to do for me in this relationship he did for the OBitch so now I'm in this melancholic, wrath of God mood.
I need a break.