He has wanted to delete all of his online profiles, FB accounts, and fake email accounts since d-day. Since the TT is still ongoing (2+ years later), I have not wanted him to. I was hoping that maybe one of the thousands of persons he conversed/ cybered/ had actual intercourse with/ lied about me to/ mocked me to/etc. would have a shred of integrity or decency and let me in on what he has been doing for the last 10 years of my marriage. I was wrong. Not a single one of these people has any sense of human decency. Not his “ex-girlfriends”. Not his “stripper friends”. Not his “friends.” Not even people who pretended to be my friends. And, certainly not any of the horror shows from C/L or the dating sites.
I’ve accepted that all of these people suck and they are never going to be of any use to me. I don’t like it, but I’m past it.
So, now what? Is it possible to erase an online identity and start over? For example, WH has admitted to sending one photo of his cock to one man (I imagine that actually means that he sent many photos to many people, etc.). I do NOT want my children to ever see that or anything else he may have posted/shared online.
If we do go through and wipe out everything, then anything new will be him acting out in the present, right? Right now, he still gets all kinds of emails and propositions from dating sites and persons that can be explained away by “it was all stuff from the past.” But, if we delete those profiles and those email addresses, then whatever comes in the future will be new activity and I’ll know for sure that he has not changed. He claims that he hasn’t touched that stuff in years…..years before d-day even. I am skeptical. If we wipe out everything, anything new that is found will be just that: new.
Now, to stir the pot a bit-we’re even considering doing a little altering of info-just to be aware of who the real nutjobs are and if they’re still watching/waiting for him to come back for some whatever-the-hell-it-is-they-think-they-had. WH claims he does not have anything to do with any of these people nor does he want to ever again. He claims to be horrified that he had ever had anything to do with any of these people. If we changed his hometown to, say, Nome, Alaska, it might throw the psychos off enough to leave us the hell alone forever. After changing the profiles to the “new” info, we delete. All of it.
Has anyone done this? Is there any reason not to?
I posted something similar a while ago in I/T but did nothing about it because I didn’t get much response. The reasons behind doing this now have escalated with other factors ongoing in our lives, so I feel that we need to do something about this.