Dawn - I was encouraged to start an AD early on by my PCP. I really didn't want that, when I went to the psych though to really talk things through we came to a happy agreement.
He said the saddness I was having was normal. I was grieving. People that loose a loved one to death, don't always need AD's to get through it, although many Dr's are ready to hand them out. He said that my ADHD would be more difficult to manage during this time, and offered to have me go back on one of those meds (I tried for a week, and stopped, made me really cranky).
But the heart of the matter was the anxiety. I had this constant worry. I had all these questions going around and around in my head, and I had very little control over the whole situation. This made sleep almost impossible, and sometimes work was a challenge too. He gave me Ativan, and encouraged me to use it for the overwhelming times, and for a sleep aid, if I couldn't fall asleep in my normal time frame, take one. It worked like a charm.
It allowed me to get good sleep, which helped me keep my emotions in balance. I was able to really find my center and balance again. AS I healed, the need for them became less, and I stopped altogether.
I did use Ativan again this past year when I was having some significant issues with work, and kids. It helped me over that hump too.
Just wanted to share my experience.
I was reluctant to try AD's because they have so many side effects, and it seems like for many people once you are on one, you are on them forever.