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User Topic: Odd WH behavior-not looking in the eyes
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What?  Posted: 7:54 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The last couple days my WH has been refusing to look me in the eyes. He avoids me and barely speaks.

I find this interesting, because, he never had a problem looking me in the eyes, kissing me, hugging me, telling me how much he loved me, mere hours after paying a prostitute to have sex with him.

If I had been the one having an affair, I think I would have difficulty looking him in the eyes after an affair.

He is quite the opposite. I think it shows his character of deceit to be able to look at me and act like nothing's happened, when something very much did happen,

And then when nothing really happens, he avoids me.

Something's up and I can't figure out what.

The only thing that changed is Sunday, he asked me if I wanted to have more kids with him. I said no. He asked if I wanted to practice making kids. I said absolutely not!

Idk, maybe he found out that I blocked his favorite prostitutes number on his phone.

Any ideas as to the odd behavior of lubby dubby behavior after having sex with other women versus avoidance when he isn't having sex with other women?

Married 11/11/11
2 kids
D-day 12/27/12
D-day 4/12/13
D-day 6/26/13
You know perfectly that you can only change what you accept....never forget that there are two kinds of pain, the one that hurts and the one that makes you change.

Posts: 259 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Athena1979
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Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Maybe he's upset he can't have is cake and eat it too and avoiding eye contact is some form of punishment (perhaps even subconscious).

Or maybe you're one of lucky ones and the gravity of what he's done is starting to finally sink in.

I don't know your whole story - and you know your husband the best.

On a side note - why do you want someone like that anyway? You know you deserve better right? And don't stay for the kids if you have any because they are remarkably insighful and will learn what a relationship should be like from their mom and dad.

You dont want them thinking they can't get out if something like this happens to them in their marriage.

IMHO you'll never know what is going on in his head, no amount of investigating will satiate the need for knowledge but - maybe you should start if you haven't already. VAR was the most enlightening for me. Your gut is talking maybe you should listen.


Posts: 401 | Registered: Aug 2011
♀ 24924
Member # 24924
Default  Posted: 8:12 AM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's difficult to say because I don't know your whole story or history with him, but is it possible that the weight of what he has done is finally sinking in?

On the other hand, I would go into stealth mode, especially when it comes to checking the online cell phone usage, just in case.

Me-50 BW

Walk a Mile In My Shoes
Married 14 yrs. Now Separated & in NC
2 grown DD's - his from previous M
4 grown kids (2DS, 2DD) mine from previous M

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