I asked STBXH for his attorney's info yesterday and he has yet to pass it on. I am starting to think his passive aggressive ass does not have an attorney and he is bluffing, so now things will be even more difficult trying to get this divorce.
Again, he would rather fight me tooth and nail rather than be remorseful and seeking a counselor. I guess it is easier to dig a more expensive hole.
My STBXH finally responded to my question about his lawyer with "If you really have a lawyer, he should be able to find out my lawyer's info".
Really, making it this difficult to get our attorneys to talk to another another. Me thinks now he either was bluffing or doesn't have the money to retain one.
When I decided to D I went in with that attitude that my XWW was not getting anything more from me then she had already taken. Aside from CS she would get shit. I felt that she had already spent enough of my hard earned money on her affairs. But truth be told that was an illusion on my part. D in not a place to extract your pound of flesh. The law is the law. Make no mistake about it, D is just what it means. It ends the M on a legal and final level. There is no room for any other intention. My thinking actually delayed the process by many months. My attorney tried to advise me as to how the law worked. But I was angry and ran with it. In the end I gave up on my blood thirst and decided to work within the law. I made a good settlement offer that both parties agreed to. It hurt financially at first. But it was best for all involved to follow what the law stated. Get your head wrapped around the fact that the M is over. D is just the finality of it all. If you have issues or feelings that are unresolved see a therapist. Work on yourself and let the experts worry about the legal process. Hire an attorney and secure your rights and responsibilities under the law. Good luck.
I guess I am just reflecting on how stubborn he is. Whether it is his ego or pride, rather than admit he is wrong and work with me, he rather fight against me. Unfortunately for him, he will lose... I know, I know, why am I thinking about him. Focus on me. Yes, I know. Regardless of what happened, I still do care about him and I am literally witnessing the man I loved tear himself apart because his ego is too strong. It is sad.
How did I feel when I sold the rings? A bit of finality. It was a beautiful set. I haven't worn them in over 6 months so it was just something else from the marriage to get rid of. And yes, I bought myself something great indeed, my attorney's retainer.
I am only 28 but I hope I find faith in love and marriage again. Because all of this scares me into thinking I may be alone for the rest of my life.
[This message edited by movingforward13 at 12:26 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday)]