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soveryweary posted 7/2/2013 10:18 AM

As I sit here completely humiliated and disgusted with myself for how I reacted and wait for any backlash from sending a letter to the yoga studio she is taking teaching classes from, is there anyone who did some things they regret and didn't get any backlash from it.
I am waiting on pins and needles for either the police to pull up or get a summons to appear in court for libel.
I am truly going insane with worry. I am sorry, sorry, sorrry for my actions.

Sal1995 posted 7/2/2013 10:20 AM

Sent a pm to you

rachelc posted 7/2/2013 11:10 AM

SVW - you exposed the truth and there is NOTHING WRONG with that. I do not regret anything I did back then except not throw him out.
She chose her actions. She doesnt' get to choose the consequences.
Your consequence might be a visit or phone call from a lawyer or the cops. So what.

stratus722 posted 7/2/2013 12:43 PM

You did what many of us have dreamed about doing. Hopefully nothing will come out of this for you. Hopefully she is ashamed and has consequences for her actions.

soveryweary posted 7/2/2013 14:12 PM

I'd give my right arm to take everything back. Revenge is not the answer. I am so ashamed and disappointed in myself. I can't even look in the mirror. So I made my bed, now I have to lie in it. I hope anyone reading this will realize taking the high road is the way to go. I just hope I can recover from ths.

soveryweary posted 7/2/2013 14:13 PM

I'd give my right arm to take everything back. Revenge is not the answer. I am so ashamed and disappointed in myself. I can't even look in the mirror. So I made my bed, now I have to lie in it. I hope anyone reading this will realize taking the high road is the way to go. I just hope I can recover from this nightmare, it's about as bad as the betrayal by him.

confused615 posted 7/2/2013 14:18 PM

Im not sure why you feel you have done something so terrible. You informed the place she works at what kind of person they have employed. If they have a problem with her lack of morality,then they will do what they see fit. If they don't care,they won't say anything to her...Im guessing they will disregard your email and it will be business as usual.

This is the OW that has continued to carry on an affair with your WH..after dday..they went underground..am I correct?

Yeah..sorry...I don't understand your guilt. And,Im one of the very few BS's on SI who have no issue with the AP's of my WH. I harbor no hatred for them at all. But I can certainly understand why you did what you did. This woman has waged war on your marriage and your family.

The high road is popular around here,I know,and revenge isn't a good thing according to most people..but Im in the minority...sometimes turning the other cheek only gets the other cheek slapped.

[This message edited by confused615 at 2:19 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday)]

heartache101 posted 7/2/2013 14:33 PM

I am sure you will be ok. IF all you said is the truth well then nothing to worry about. You are way to nice doll..

somanyyears posted 7/2/2013 15:06 PM


..agreeing with confused.. quit beating yourself up here..

..there is much support hear for exposure of the A, to out the participants and shine a light on the destructive actions.

..actions i contemplate would come back to haunt me for sure, especially the 20 years to life!

..i'm willing to bet the house on no backlash from this OW. do yourself a favour and quit worrying over nothing, she can't do diddly squat for reporting her, and they probably could care less about the woman's background. With cheating so rampant, i'll bet half the employees of this studio are cheaters! ..

..please don't lose another moment's sleep over this.

smy

1devastedmom posted 7/2/2013 15:22 PM

I found out the real name etc. for one of my husbands prostitutes and sent letters to every single apartment# in her complex. I wanted to let her neighbors know what kind of woman lived there. It felt good. I didn't put my name on the letters and no return address so there's no way for her to know who it came from. I also wrote her a note telling her exactly how I felt about her. I'm sure she doesn't care because she obviously has no morals or class so why would she care if someone thought she was a dirty whore.

dawnmarie posted 7/2/2013 15:41 PM

I sent a detailed note to many of whooers friends and family on FB. Some were quite surprised, only one called to scorn me for whooer and I told him if they needed proof, I could forward that to everyone as well; I never heard another word. I didn't lie, I didn't slander, and I didn't threaten. It was all truth and I had proof and my neighbor/Chief of Police said about all she could do was press charges for harassment, but then she wouldn't have a leg to stand on because again, there was no slander, threat or lies.

I would do it again in a heartbeat with absolutely NO REGRETS!!

soveryweary posted 7/2/2013 16:13 PM

Thank you all dear, sweet, wonderful brothers/ sisters in this mess.
I'm trying to get it together.
Hugs to you all, you mean the world to me.

RightTrack posted 7/2/2013 20:01 PM

They chose to have an affair with a married person, they get the consequence.

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