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gypsybird87 posted 7/2/2013 14:34 PM

Just got a text from XWH, stating he approves of the security monitoring company I signed with for my home alarm. He knows this company through his work in the same field, so that's how he heard about it.

I have no clue why he is randomly texting me like this, but its the second time now he's tried to get some response from me. The first time I gave him nothing but crickets. Now here he is again.

My question is do I stay with crickets? Or send back something like "Please don't ever text me again." I would block his texts immediately but since we are both on iphones they come via imessage and that can't be blocked.

Its VERY tempting to send something like, "what makes you think I give a shit about your opinion? This doesn't concern you, so f*ck off and do not text me again, about this or anything else, EVER."

Which response is likely to:
a- make him leave me the fuck alone, AND b- upset him more. Because if I'm being honest, those are my two objectives. I want him miserable, and far away.

What are your thoughts??

[This message edited by gypsybird87 at 2:37 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday)]

lostmommy posted 7/2/2013 14:39 PM

Crickets. But very creepy that he heard about your security monitoring company. How did he find out? Was he searching you?

gypsybird87 posted 7/2/2013 14:55 PM

Lost,

He sells wire and other components to this security company and knows the owner. Something was probably mentioned to him in passing.

If I were to say "don't text me ever again" what do you think he would do? Go silent or try to engage further?

lostmommy posted 7/2/2013 14:57 PM

I don't know much about your situation, but the best thing to do is ignore. Engaging him in conversation will just make him think he can continue to converse with you, and possibly manipulate you further.

thenon-goddess posted 7/2/2013 15:08 PM

If you want to give him this impression...

"what makes you think I give a shit about your opinion? This doesn't concern you, so f*ck off and do not text me again, about this or anything else, EVER."

Then the best thing you can do is give him *crickets*. Then he is not even worth the effort of the Keystrokes.

gypsybird87 posted 7/2/2013 15:16 PM

Crickets it is.

Thanks, gals.

Nature_Girl posted 7/2/2013 15:17 PM

Don't respond to him at all in any way. HOWEVER, you can be damn sure I'd be paying a personal visit to that security monitoring business & letting them know how INSECURE they just made me feel by somehow allowing my ex-fucking-husband to know that I was using them for my personal safety. I'd want some kind of special assurance that they would safeguard my account and never ever again allow my ex-fucking-husband access to my private information again.

And maybe they'd throw in a free month or two of monitoring for the breech of safety they already caused me.

lostmommy posted 7/2/2013 15:18 PM

^^ What she said!

StrongerOne posted 7/2/2013 17:04 PM

what Nature Girl said -- make sure you talk to the owner or manager (district manager if it is a large company). OMG, that is scary! I would take my business elsewhere and you can bet I would not pay any sort of cancellation fee.

SBB posted 7/2/2013 17:46 PM

What NG said. WTF? How do they know you didn't get the security system BECAUSE of him.

What a fucking control freak - just dying for you to know he knows. Trying to interject himself into your life.

F.T.G.

Crickets to him - completely. He is baiting you, don't bite.

cayc posted 7/2/2013 17:54 PM

I wouldn't stay with that security monitoring company. I'd cancel the account and find another more trustworthy company.

peridot posted 7/2/2013 18:38 PM

I would not respond to him and I would be finding another company.

Douchebagfree posted 7/3/2013 07:10 AM

Ditto on the crickets. Strongbutbroken hit the nail on the head. He's letting you know that he knows.

Mine was doing the same thing, sending me random texts about things that don't concern me.
He told me how he had to get a new job because of policy changes at his current work. All bullshit since I know he didn't like his job and that's where he met the Twinkie so maybe management booted his ass out. He gave me all of the details about where he'd be working, when he was starting, bla bla bla. All I kept thinking was, WTF does this have to do with me? So I texted him and said" just make sure you have money to pay half the bills". No response.

Crickets are best.

dindy posted 7/3/2013 08:47 AM

Definitely crickets.

My ex was always commenting on my flat when he dropped the children off saying this and that was nice and he liked how I had moved the furniture. As if I need his opinion. I've now asked that he drop our children off at the door and do not come in.

And definitely contact that company, they should not be discussing your business especially to you ex-husband. Creepy!