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Reconciliation :
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 ladya (original poster member #29184) posted at 8:48 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013

I can still get knocked down by triggers occasionally and sometimes it hits me out of nowhere. I finally have been hit out of nowhere and realized I overcame a trigger.

FWH sent the OW a text once that told her how pretty she looked in a picture she had shared with him. It was that text that set me off and made me finally face the fact that something wasn't right in our M. It has made me sick for years. The thought of her going out of her way to share an intimate family moment with him. Him thinking about her in the middle of his work day. Him taking the time to take his phone out of his pocket and text her to let her know he thought she was pretty. I think you can get the picture. :) Well, this afternoon he sent me a text and said he can't stop thinking about how pretty I looked this morning in my nightgown and I smiled. I didn't trigger. I didn't go there. I smiled. It hit me about 3 hours later that I smiled and didn't trigger. It's the little things.......

Me:BS married 29 yrs.
5 kids

Time really does heal.
EA D-Day May 2008
PA D-Day May 7,2010 (same A)

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unfound ( member #12802) posted at 8:52 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013

ka-mai
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Kids on the playground can be so cruel. “Get off the swings you’re like 50, and stop talking about Soundgarden, we don't even know what that is."

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3kids30years ( member #38879) posted at 11:01 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013

Thanks for sharing - gives me hope.

I have similar triggers, so maybe I'll get past them as well!

BW - 52 on Dday
WH - 53 on Dday
DDay - 3/2/13 - 2:07pm 2+ year EA/PA
TT until 2016 - why do they do that?

Trust is earned, respect is given, & loyalty is demonstrated. Betrayal of any one is to loose all three.

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Lucky ( member #6864) posted at 11:22 PM on Tuesday, July 2nd, 2013

awesome

♥ WINE - the other fruit juice! ♥



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