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User Topic: child support question
abigailadams
♀ 37556
Member # 37556
Default  Posted: 3:50 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If you get child support, does your s/d agreement specify when you get it? Is there something that is standard?


Me BS 54
Him WS 51
Married 10 years together 13
DDay October 11, 2012

Posts: 134 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Brooklyn, NY
Phoenix1
♀ 38928
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Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Our state guideline standard is the first of every month and it is specified in the agreement.


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XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

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Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
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Default  Posted: 4:08 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The draft I'm working on specifies the first of the month.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
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HopeImOverIt
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Default  Posted: 4:43 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine also specifies that the payment is "late" after the 5th of the month, and that if he's late more than 2 times I can take the matter to my state's child support enforcement agency.

Interestingly HIS lawyer put that in. MY lawyer told me I can take it to the agency at any time, so that clause doesn't really require me to wait until he's late 3 times. Still, I liked the wording of it.


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ExWH: (51)
2 teen-age boys
Divorced

Posts: 268 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: PA
ButterflyGirl
♀ 38377
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Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine's supposed to be the first of the month. Of course today is the second and no check.


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Posts: 2627 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
Dreamboat
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Default  Posted: 5:56 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine specifically says on the first day of the month.


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peridot
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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, July 2nd (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine says on the first day of the month.


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movingforward13
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Default  Posted: 12:44 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Any way to appeal to support enforcement? Mine is a weekly payment garnished via his employer.


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Posts: 643 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: DC
whyohwhyohwhy
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Default  Posted: 1:02 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine (child support and alimony) is every two weeks.

It's garnished by the state through his employer and direct deposited in my bank account.

I can't tell you how much easier it is than sweating it out every month.


what did I ever do to deserve this?

Me:47 BS
Him: X, 51 PA SA NPD?
2 kids; DD14, DD8 divorced


Posts: 1044 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: east coast
lostmommy
♀ 33440
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mine is garnished every week from his paycheck. Best thing I ever did.

I love child support Tuesdays!


Me (BS): 32, Mommy to J: 2 1/2 Divorced: 4/10/13
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