Someone please tell me it's normal to not want them to have fun when you can't.
You just found out this past month and he picked up a new hobby that you barely invited to as a spectator??? WHAT?
It is totally normal to want to be soothed by your loving husband trying to make amends for betraying you.
This guy has the wrong idea of what a remorseful WH should be doing. He should be spending all of his free time with you trying to help you to heal from his nasty trysts!!
UGH?!? Where do these WH come from?? Rainbow Fartland of selfish assholes?!?
This guy needs to be shook up. If you are feeling crazy and out of sorts he needs to be your Knight in shining armor, not a tin foil wrapped fool, blithely tripping along stepping on your neck while your try to breathe!
Try having a calm convo about how you are feeling...about the bowling, about the show animals...everything. He needs to show some simpatico! If he does not get that you are in pain, actively listen and work on himself...
DETACH, it is time for the 180 BABY!!!
He does not get to have a great time with his AP, wipe his feet on you with her in tow and now spend time out, away from you, looking for fun.
It is all about what you will accept. But it will help if you approach these issues in a calm manner. Sort of like speaking to an idiot or an immature teenager.
I am sorry that I am so livid for you. I just don't get how the injured party needs to explain how very devastated you are and how they can help. BUT after you have made your case and he still remains a douche'...180!
He should not reap the benefits of being married to an honest, loving wife. Especially since he tried to fire you from that job! And now you are offering him the gift of Reconciliation. That is a very precious gift. Don't let him squander it.
Let him see what it like when nobody gives a shit about his wants and needs. Kinda like he is treating you now.
BS me DD's 26, 25' DS 23
dd1 1-1-10, dd2 Mothers Day 2011, dd3 3-12-12 Hawaii trip with ho-worker...
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