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hurting1600 posted 7/2/2013 16:33 PM

My antiversery was on 6/20. I did not feel very much understanding and remorse from my wife during this period. This lacking has seriously shut me down. I find myself unwilling to make future plans or give a hoot in general. I am afraid that this crap has pushed me too far. Any advise? I really do not want a divorce but I do want to be valued and respected.

5454real posted 7/2/2013 16:45 PM

could I recommend joining us on on the betrayed mens forum in the I can relate Thread? from your description I do believe you would get a lot of advice

FieldsOfLavender posted 7/2/2013 20:21 PM

I did not feel very much understanding and remorse from my wife during this period. ... I really do not want a divorce but I do want to be valued and respected.

I am a betrayed wife, but I feel the same as you. I'd like to try to work things out but there can be no traction, if the wayward spouse has no remorse. I also want to be valued and respected, but how will that happen when there is no remorse to begin reconciliation?

hurting1600 posted 7/2/2013 20:43 PM

Thank you 5454. I will try it?

5454real posted 7/2/2013 20:54 PM

Take your time. I recommend starting at the beginning of part 10.

On a practical note, start with yourself. Value and respect yourself first. You are entitled to it.

Have you looked into the 180? Keep contact with her to a minimum while you recuperate. Understand that the 180 is for you to heal, not bring her back.

More in a bit.

Strength

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