I urgently need to deal with some NC letters/emails/texts whatever. They are LONG overdue but I want to get it right. The whole situation is making me sick. A couple of parasites have come poking around and we need these doors CLOSED. Permanently!!
I know everyone says 'short and to the point'.. but god I want to say SO much more. Does anyone have examples of anything besides the 'one liner' ones.. (although those are certainly valid & effective in the right situations).. or any other advice..?? I'm just having a *really* hard time actually DOING IT. And I don't know WHY. Why do I keep procrastinating...? and I say 'I'.. because.. obviously, my H needs to write them- but I am really the one making him DO IT.. because he's embarrassed about, it or whatever.. he just wants to ignore the problem(s) and hope it/they will just 'go away'. But the problem is... THEY NEVER REALLY DO. Also I want to write the messages with him.. approve them and be cc'd, so I can be part of the whole conversation. The parasites need to see that CLEARLY... they need to know there are no more 'secret communications' that do not include me. They never seem to take a hint to get lost.. (why are these scumbags ALWAYS so predictable..??) so more aggressive measures are needed.
BUT- here's the issue.. I also don't want him re-establishing contact at all...!! I am seriously dreading it... That alone seems like a bad thing. Because sometimes ignoring someone is the most powerful statement you can make. Then again, if it meant that he would pop their fantasy bubble once and for all by saying 'Im not interested, get lost, GOODBYE'- then it could be worth it. So I'm feeling really conflicted about it all.
So if I really wanted this done and done YESTERDAY-- (These really should have been written ages ago)-- then WHY is it so hard...???
And in the meantime the parasites are popping up again and again trying to continue secret 'friendships' and get his attention.. just causing more stress and anxiety for me (and both of us).
Anyone else going through this.. and what exactly IS my problem...???