I just spoke to our mediator today. She is firing us. XWH has not yet taken any action or met any deadlines that he agreed to.
Got this from him today:
I have issued a cheque for the “B” property taxes at $1464.66. Tomorrow you can let me know what method you wish to submit your portion of that at $ 732.33.
The B property is in your name.
We have both agreed in mediation that the B property is yours.
The divorce has been granted.
I would like to understand your reasons for thinking I should be perpetually responsible for your bills. At what point does that end if not now?
There has been discussion about all the matramonial items but to my knowledge nothing has been finallized unless you acually know something I do not
Item 4 under "Division of Property" in the most recent Mediated Report Agreement sent to you by our mediator states:
"Other Real Estate/Properties – Lot 1B, Lot 37S, and Lots 24S and 25S will remain with XWH."
Are you saying that you now disagree with this? If so, why did you not contact the mediator as instructed with your concerns and corrections?
It is my understanding that as items are agreed upon, they are added to the report. It is not some 'big final agreement thing' that happens when every last detail is worked out. They are added to the agreement in a cumulative manner AS they are worked out.
As I’ve indicated, the INTERIM Separation Agreement we had in which I was footing the bill for half of your expenses, was never intended as a long-term perpetual plan, it was stop-gap means of dealing with imminent issues. I have tried faithfully to keep my end of that agreement for nearly two years now, far longer than I ever anticipated. The "interim" is over and the elements of that agreement are now being replaced. That is the point of working with the mediator.
It never ceases to amaze me that so far "agreements" only appear to pertain to TC and not XWH.
I will no longer be contributing to the maintenance of property B.
And of course...... I'm the one "reneging on my agreement".
Yep, I am. And its a little scary and a lot hard because Ive spent 43 years doing things out of fear of his reaction. Gotta get my big girl panties on now and head to a crackerjack lawyer and quit worrying about whether he's mad, cuz hes gonna be.
[This message edited by trebleclef at 2:51 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday)]