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whatdoto posted 7/3/2013 09:41 AM

In our Original Petition for Divorce Item 31 states Respondent (WH) is not to "Permit an unrelated adult with whom Respondent has an intimate or dating relationship to remain in the same residence with the child between the hours of 8:00 PM and 8:00 AM"

WTF? So, while we are separated, living on the same property, WH is allowed to see other people, just not bring them home after 8PM for a sleepover!

Yep, in Texas you are allowed to date pending the divorce.

Comments?

chikastuff posted 7/3/2013 09:47 AM

Some divorces take years and for most of us the marriage was over at the time we filed, if not before. I don't have a problem with this so long as my child and I are not exposed to it.

7yrsflushed posted 7/3/2013 09:53 AM

Same thing in my state. It's not officially written into decree or PSA's but once we signed the PSA, the lawyer told us that while she did not think we should do it both of us were free to date other people. Basically since the divorce petition was made as no fault, if either one of us started dating, we could not turn around and then try to file on grounds of adultery. That ship had sailed and she had to tell us that prior to signing the agreement.

We then did in-house S for 3 months and it sucked but I made it through and now I am free to date whenever and whoever I want. How long before your in-house S is over? Focus on that and count the days since you now have an end in sight to the craziness.

[This message edited by 7yrsflushed at 9:54 AM, July 3rd (Wednesday)]

devistatedmom posted 7/3/2013 10:12 AM

Whatdoto....he was dating anyway. That's why you are where you are, getting a D.

Don't focus on what you can't change. Be glad he can't bring his slunts around the kids, and focus on what is important to you in the D. What you need, and what you want. I know it's hard...but try to focus on what you can control.

whatdoto posted 7/3/2013 10:41 AM

Thanks everyone!

You are all right. My focus should not be on him, but me and DS.

We have temp orders hearing on 7/15, I'm going to breakdown. I really didn't want this, but he forced my hand.

Thanks again all