I've read all the usual suggestions, yet none actually speak about the long term, the dual life.
Any suggestions anyone?
No suggestions, but the term "monogamous" in the same phrase as "extra marital relationship" is probably screwing up my Google searches .
I would say that for the last five years before discovery, WH and I were intimate maybe twice a year only.
(I just thought he was getting old and boring!)
I read the synopsis for "Sexual Detours" and also some reviews. One reviewer said she liked the book but wished it had dealt more with long term "detours".
But if you found it helpful, I will give it a try.
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"
But I agree that the psychology of a LTA is unique. I met with WH's therapist -- who is very experienced -- and I told her that, even on here, WH's LTA was unusual. And that's saying a lot. But that there were some themes that seemed to fit him. We all search for some way of understanding this, but sadly there's so little real research on any of this. Surprising, really, considering how common it all is. "More research is needed!" said the Professor...
my ws has been involved for going on 8yrs. He has been faithful to
her..more than to me
He was faithful to neither of you.