So - I told him I wouldn't be going to MC but will make an appt for IC.
That is so great that both sides of your family know and support YOU. I haven't told anyone other than a close friend who just got divorced.
Good luck with all the family around tomorrow.
I am so sorry to hear about your devastation and pain.
I am almost 6 months in, and the pain does come in waves. Good days and bad days.
My WH "told me everything" only you have more truths hit over the next month. That is very common on here, unfortunately
I thought I had agreat marriage, until my life exploded.
I also have a special needs child, we need extra love and support, not asshole bastards who cheat on us!!
My best advice to you is to do a little research on Sex Addiction. My husband balked at this at first, but many WH's do. Heaven forbid they see any true flaws in themselves. Affairs, sexting, pornography...the majority of people with multiple acting out behaviors exhibit some signs of SA.
Set Boundaries! I too filled out the papers, I even got the documents notarized. Take text off his phone, period. Go online and download his text/calling history. Check gmail for other email account (do this by typing in a known email account under "lost my account" info.). . Set any check-ins you need to. Get all passwords for all accounts. Demand he gets counseling, regular std testing. I made a demand my WH go to outpatient rehab for addiction. Best choice I ever made in all of this quagmire I've been thrown in.
My WH is smart, handsome, "pillar of morality" in our small town. He wasn't overtly adventurous sexually with me, but we had a great sex life....and he is a sex addict. It isn't about sex, it's about issues stemming back to childhood.
The most important thing is you and your precious child. Put the two of you first above all else.
Peace and love to you on your journey!!!
That which doesn't kill me makes me stronger...but damn, aren't I strong enough yet???
[This message edited by brokenhearted76 at 7:47 PM, July 3rd (Wednesday)]
A Dates: March 2013-May 2013
D-Day 2013: May 24
MW: My former best friend.
He has asked for a 2nd chance. We are trying. Now he and I have no contact with his mother.
#1 BD 4/13
Then R ( at least I thought I was in R )
#2 BD 1/15
Hired atty 3/15