Another little spat this morning helped me realise that I often say to myself "why couldn't he have just responded like XYZ, then everything would have been fine."
As I sit here thinking about it though, I am wondering perhaps I am too sensitive and in reality if I had of just reacted like XYZ then everything would be fine???
Now I'm chastising myself thinking that perhaps I am too concerned with who was 'right' and who was 'wrong'in the situation and that's why I am analysing it.
I feel confused but also as though I'm close to a light bulb moment. This morning has highlighted our poor communication and to not analyse it would be to continue with old immature patterns of disagree/argue, silence for a period of time, a truce from one corner or the other and the whole incident forgotten (rugswept).
Nothing gained at all but an opportunity for personal growth and relationship health lost.
Can anyone recommend any good self help books on improving communication. Not A related. Something with exercises that make you think and stay on topic. Something that we might do together??