I have zero interest in dating and am getting tired of people suggesting that I'm too young to be alone. I tell them that I'm not alone, I have friends and my business, school, my pets. I'm at peace for the first time in my life and I don't want anyone to put a kink in that.
I like eating what I want, where I want, wearing what I want, going where I want to go, controlling the remote, etc. I go over to the house of a few friends (all happily married) and enjoy evenings with them. I really enjoy time in my yard.
I'm not even remotely interested in sex and have no desire to meet anyone. I'm a pretty friendly and outgoing person, but meeting people on a platonic level is fine for me.
I don't know if it's that I don't want to ever get hurt again or that I'm just so much at peace that I don't feel like changing anything. I don't feel stressed about not dating, it's more that other folks bring it up. And I think sometimes that it's hard to believe.
But I'm happy now.
There is much to be said for all the perks you list and I recognize and accept many of those truths about myself. I am "dating" but have no intention of blending my life with someone. It took me several years to get to this point.
You may or may not feel like dating in a few years. Cross that bridge when you get there (or not.)
People who have not walk in your shoes don't know the healing and the comfort of living without drama and noise and upheaval. Enjoy it without justifying it.
I have seen others post this same feeling, so you are not alone in this.
I am so glad you have peace and happiness.
Except...until...I actually have to start my own dam thread in NB
I just feel good being single. I can't imagine trying to add a man to my life. It just wouldn't work. Anytime I do think I miss having a man around, it's always because I want a man to do something for me, like help me dig a hole for a tree. LOL I can always pay someone to take care of those things.
I think romantic relationships are fairly overrated. And the high failure rate matters to me these days. It just doesn't make sense to me to invest so much of myself into something so risky.
[This message edited by hurtinky at 8:25 AM, July 4th (Thursday)]
I don't feel stressed about not dating, it's more that other folks bring it up. And I think sometimes that it's hard to believe.
"And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be."
- Sarah McMane
My sister is happily single, no interest in finding a mate, does what she wants when she wants no children to care for. She is happy. People ask me and my parents all the time about if she has some one in her life or if she is having kids blah blah blah. People need to mind their own damn business.
I imagine shortly I will be asked the same questions, my parents and my sister will be asked the same questions about me. I am happily single as well. It's not that I don't want to date, I just don't have the time to commit to developing a relationship either and until that changes I won't be dating and that's ok!
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
People may be well-meaning but only YOU will know what you're ready for
The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed