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User Topic: Feeling blue
♀ 38619
Member # 38619
Frustrated  Posted: 6:00 AM, July 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy July 4th or bah humbug...whatever...

I'm sitting here with the cutest puppy you can imagine snoring on my lap. My beautiful DD is singing in her sleep and my fWH is snoring away as well. I should be ecstatic that my life is headed in the right direction again. Instead I'm here feeling blue.

We have been NC for exactly 4 months today yet she keeps on sniffing around. It all started 2 days ago when the MOW once again looked at my and my fWH's LinkedIn pages. At least she no longer has her picture attached to her account so that I don't have to see her face but I just want her to leave us alone. I know that in the grand scheme of things 4 months is nothing, but with every look I feel myself being thrown back to DDay1 and it sucks.

I'm not sleeping much thanks to my fWH's RLS and snoring so I've found myself becoming more and more sensitive. Don't know how much longer I can go before I blow up from shear exhaustion. My fWH and I are still going thru the ends and outs of the A and I'm afraid any unintentional blow up by me could derail our progress somewhat. I said...feeling blue.

"If you're brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello." - Paulo Coehlo

Posts: 440 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: East Coast
♀ 39551
Member # 39551
Default  Posted: 10:24 AM, July 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I don't think I am right for the R forum because I'm just not there and probably will never be.

But I can't see someone feeling blue and not want to give a hug.

I'm jealous of your puppy and DD sleep singing. I'm at work!

Cheer up or maybe blow something up? Its the 4th, no one will know.

Posts: 557 | Registered: Jun 2013
♀ 39650
Member # 39650
Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, July 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Don't know if this will help, but you can't control what she does. What is FWH reaction to her sniffing around? Does he know? IMHO, social media and the internet can be evil. H and I both got rid of facebook a long time ago b/c it was causing jealousy problems (before A, go figure!).

I feel the same as you in that I don't want to take one step forward then two steps back b/c of a blow up. I tend to tread lightly and am trying to live in the moment and appreciate any little progress I see. Its not easy, its HARD, and sometimes its too much and I lose it.

Good luck and I wish you the best. You're not alone being blue.

Posts: 41 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: New Jersey
♀ 35971
Member # 35971
Default  Posted: 8:33 PM, July 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Who gives a $h!t about the OW?

YOU HAVE A PUPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Me - BS
WH - old
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

Posts: 1569 | Registered: Jun 2012
♀ 32999
Member # 32999
Default  Posted: 10:32 PM, July 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree w/ Josephine85....

YOU HAVE A PUPPY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Puppies make everything better.
Hugs to you Mack.....

me: heartbroken
him: the one who did it
in R

Posts: 90 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Just South Of There....
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Member # 32430
Default  Posted: 10:44 AM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is there anyway you and fWH can get rid of LinkedIn for awhile? I mean you can always go back and do these pages in the future right?

Are you guys in MC and/or IC? Being able to work through the anger and marriage troubles is great in MC, and IC can really help with letting go of what you cannot control (OW looking you both up on the internet).

I found limiting OW/xBFF's access to me very freeing from her in the beginning. Recently, her daughter found my old YouTube account and it did trigger some feelings I wasn't expecting as I can only assume OW/xBFF looked at the page as well. But, it only took a day or so to get it out of my mind and not really care at all what she is doing.

Until you remove the obstacles that continue the triggers they will not quit. Maybe not all people here would agree with me on that, but it worked tremendously for me (as well as being in MC and IC).

BS(me) 34
fWH 38 (Epicallyfailedu)
OW/xBFF of 28 years
Four girls under 11
DDay: 6/5/2010

Posts: 2018 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: Michigan
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