"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott
Ok. So he's just told you *who* he is. And as J99 alluded to....don't give him the benefit of the doubt on this one, especially considering the circumstances of your life with him recently. Seriously.
Years & years ago Michael Jordan and his wife Juanita got divorced. Sultan and I were big MJ fans and we were discussing the topic. He was just appalled and irritated that Juanita was going to get such a huge settlement in the divorce because....wait for it.....it was MJ's money. He earned it and if it weren't for him, they wouldn't even HAVE it. SHE didn't earn it. So me, in typical fashion, said WTF? And went into just what Juanita probably *contributed*...blah, blah. The subject between us kinda dropped and since Sultan hadn't 'held' his position I gave him the benefit of the doubt and figured that he had *heard* me.
Between that time and Dday, Sultan made comments about our business. It was *his* business and without *him* there would BE no company. Again. I'd explain just what MY role was.....and I'd believe that he had just gotten upset, cocked off at the mouth, *understood* now, and didn't *really* think that way.
Now we're getting divorced. And guess what, Unagie?
He's fighting me tooth and nail over money. I want what is legally mine. He's calling me greedy and being stingy with information. Why? Because it's HIS money. HE was the one doing the work to earn it. *I* didn't do a darn thing to put a cent into that company. It is the Michael Jordan discussion redux--only now we are the main characters.
Don't discount what your SO said. He's just told you exactly what his attitude is. And yes, it's very disturbing that he thinks that an abused woman didn't 'have it so bad' because she lived in a nice house.
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.