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jjct posted 7/4/2013 08:16 AM

Hi NB!
I'm jj.
Purveyor of laughter, tears those dam salty things! & dumb conundrums.
I didn't mean for it to happen. Honest injun!
Me happy campAH!

The dang thing is -
I'm attracted.
& I want to be sure, inside,

that I'm NOT just attracted to attraction.
KWIM?

Me trusting the tingle?
Get outta here!
I'd sooner eat cold beets than let my happy heart out.
Expose it to exposure.

Uh uh!
So,
what is the tingle?
Is it in me? (as in *only*)

Obviously, we're strangers, in the sense that I kicked the kisa's ass, but this is a new thing.
And I want to be sure.
Before I let it out.

I'm jj, and I'm not sure I approve of the message my silly heart is sending...careful now, careful!

Sad in AZ posted 7/4/2013 08:32 AM

Like!

jjct posted 7/4/2013 08:41 AM

Thanks friend - means a LOT to me!
I'm a bit skeered...

OnceInALifetime posted 7/4/2013 08:53 AM

Yeah, it is scary. The few times I've felt that I've gotten my ass kicked.

But that's probably because my own confidence plummets when I feel the tingles. Which makes me wonder, is that partly what the tingles are all about? Feeling like you're in the presence of an idol?

I don't trust the tingles much myself. If you figure out how to work with them, let me know, because it would be fun as hell to be able to surf that wave.

inconnu posted 7/4/2013 09:11 AM

Sweetie, I'm pretty sure if you were just going to be attracted to attraction it would have happened way before now. It's been a long road, you've done a lot of hard work. Trust in that, and enjoy the rewards.

jjct posted 7/4/2013 09:24 AM

Awww! I LOVE you for that sister!
Gives my heart some peace.
Instead of juddering back and forth over the line between self-checking and outright navel-gazing!

OIAL - it feels like the same question.
The tingle is in me,
BUT
I refuse to attribute it to an idol...or let's say
*something outside of me*
Does that make sense?

It's what I learned through the healing, that is - to embrace - within - every dam shred of every dam thing.

Jrazz posted 7/4/2013 09:28 AM

nowiknow23 posted 7/4/2013 09:39 AM

It's what I learned through the healing, that is - to embrace - within - every dam shred of every dam thing.
Damn straight. Welcome to NB, jj.

jjct posted 7/4/2013 09:54 AM

Thank you! You're my kinda guides!
Funny thought just now.
You know the bad blind-sided feeling?
This is the good one!
Hahahaha!
Who'da thunk it?

jo2love posted 7/4/2013 10:37 AM

Welcome to NB, jjct.

Oh the Irony posted 7/4/2013 10:41 AM

Don't know your story, but like you already.

Go slow. Let intimacy build over some time. I suggest a controlled fall. Hold onto yourself.

jjct posted 7/4/2013 10:48 AM

Thanks jo!
You guys are like angels on my shoulder - the right shoulder!

I'm going to go grab some grub & a cold one, listen to some John Philipso -
it's Independence Day!
Wait! Now that just figures, doesn't it?
hoo boy!

Will check in later...
Wave a flag!

jjct posted 7/4/2013 10:51 AM

a controlled fall. Hold onto yourself.

Exactly.
Just what my mind needed to hear.
Confirms my feelings.
Thank you!
muah to all!
(not you, oial))))))))

jo2love posted 7/4/2013 10:56 AM

it's Independence Day!
Wait! Now that just figures, doesn't it?

caregiver9000 posted 7/4/2013 13:18 PM

jj!!

This made my day. Truly and surely, you deserve this, have earned this.

Embrace this risk and be yourself. I cannot wait for updates!!!

oh, boy... who wudda thunk it for sure.

Kajem posted 7/4/2013 15:16 PM

You've done the work.. now enjoy the fruits of that work.

Grabbing the popcorn and a cold one, sitting back... And looking forward to the updates.

hugs,

K

persevere posted 7/4/2013 18:12 PM

Great post jjct! Can't wait to hear more.

lieshurt posted 7/4/2013 19:54 PM

The dang thing is -
I'm attracted.
& I want to be sure, inside,
that I'm NOT just attracted to attraction.

I agree with Inconnu. If this were the issue it would have happened before now.


((jjct))

Amazonia posted 7/5/2013 06:19 AM


Am I the only one who'd really like to hear more about this tingle inducing non-idol?

jjct posted 7/5/2013 07:23 AM

She
.
.
.
.
fills my eyes.

The fact that this has even happened astonishes me.

For all its unexpectedness, the tingle's strength...I won't say overwhelming...more like captivating.
Like a new flavor.
Like holding a Popsicle at arm's length.

She's mid-40's, so it's not exactly like I'm throbbing the cradle here, and I'm not sure if it matters, or how it might matter in the future - we're different races.

I don't care, actually.
The fact that this has even happened is all my mind can encompass right now.
Another amazing thing to me is
"I don't care"

Self-protection?
Maybe, it doesn't feel bad - just "different"...
but the outcome is uncertain,
yeah, like we don't know that!
...and I'm just riding the feeling right now.
She fills my eyes.

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