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Well here I am, 1 month since Dday. Happy July 4th! Yeah right. I am currently in the truck with "wh", and wanting to smack him. But I wont, hes really not worth it. I am nauseated, headache, didnt sleep at all last night. So far exactly what i expected. We are on our way to a family gathering, with his family. Yay rah! The inlaws know, and they truly support me and my kids. They have gone so far as to say that if i divorce him, so do they. The hubby is acting the part of the busted cheater, but i dont know if im buying. He says hes sorry, says he loves me, wants to fix it. But..he still deletes his msgs on his phone before he goes to sleep. But swears hes not hiding nothing. Yeah ok.

Words don't count from him at this point. Actions are all that count. Hang in there, he has a long way to go. Total transparency is the minimum.

Tell your WH that deleting texts is unexcusable. It won't be allowed.

Check the phone bill and see who he is texting.

You have every right to see all messages that are on his phone. Don't tolerate him erasing messages without you seeing them.

Those who have nothing to hide hide nothing.

There can only be one reason for him to do this.

Get an online cell phone account, if you don't already have one, and monitor his texts and calls - who sends and who receives, and do so without his knowledge.

I know who he is texting, and thats the problem. Its a mutual friend of ours. Yes a female. Guess no one can be trusted. Im not doing so well at this family get together. Im trying to keep to myself, but everyone keeps coming an asking if im ok. Obviously saying "im here" isnt working. Im just not happy. All i want to do is cry.

If the female married? Out her to her BH

Let your in-laws know that you are not ok. Tell them what he is still doing. Honey, they already know he cheated. Let them help you.