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User Topic: Trying again and really listening
♀ 35178
Member # 35178
Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, July 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'll try to keep this brief. I am at the beginning of what seems like will be a long journey to move on for good. as you will know I was still in contact with him. I thought I could handle that but I couldn't.

I have now gotten my things back and dropped his stuff off. I didn't see him. Didn't contact him to tell him what I was doing. I just did it. I also returned a teddy he bought be as a gift. Maybe spiteful but it obviously meant nothing.

He contacted me that night saying that he didn't realise that the teddy would be in with his things I returned and he was sad because it smelled of me. I felt guilty of course so I apologised. He went onto say that he had ordered me a gift before the recent hassle and it arrived that day. He showed me the link. The item was purchased the day before so this is a lie.

I am now going through all of my old posts and taking on board that advice. It was truly amazing. I am in the process of printing it out and I am going to highlight the parts to read over and over.

I can't say I am in a good place right now. It feels like this is killing me but it has to be done now, once and for all. We have had no contact at all today. I have printed out a calendar for this month which I will use to get through each day. Everyday I don't contact him (I have no plans to although it is hard) I am going to write NC. If he contacts me I will just have to do my very best not to respond at all.

Thank you all for your amazing words on all of my threads. I truly appreciate it.

Posts: 342 | Registered: Mar 2012
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Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, July 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 10164 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, July 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It sounds like he is going into manipulation mode.

It also sounds like you are well aware of this, and have your head screwed on tight. Good for you. AMAZING, considering how hard all of this is.

I admire your strength.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom

Posts: 29076 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
♀ 35971
Member # 35971
Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, July 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


Me - BS
WH - old
4 Kids
Dday May 2012

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