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User Topic: R is not linear
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, July 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's been a rough week or so with a few blow ups sprinkled in here and there. I know the next two weeks will have its moments. Going "home" always does even in good times.

My H "talked me down" at 5:30 am today. I was throwing my underwear in a bag when I didn't really want to be doing that at all. I had to stop and listen and just settle down. I bit my tongue as karmahappens suggested a few days ago. It was the right thing to do. He was really trying.

Anyway, we all have to remember that R is not linear. We go forward, we go back but then we go forward again and again. We will get there.

Slow and steady wins the race right?


[This message edited by LA44 at 8:16 PM, July 4th (Thursday)]

Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 3385 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
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Default  Posted: 11:50 PM, July 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I want a like button, because just yes. I wish I could just stay on a straight path. The backs and forth is just exhausting. Slow and steady wins the race......

'You just keep living, until you are alive again'
'I don't want perfect, I want honest'

Posts: 361 | Registered: May 2013
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds just like my life right now...I'm 9 months since I found out. I too have been "throwing my underwear in a bag"...seems once every three weeks or so. I try to stop and look back at the progress and not concentrate on that "trust" thing too much. Baby steps.

"Tell the truth, or eventually someone will tell it for you."

ďChange happens when the pain of holding on becomes greater than the fear of letting go.Ē

Posts: 6 | Registered: Oct 2012
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Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am glad you got through it.


ďAnd the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossomĒ
AnaÔs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3989 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts
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Member # 36922
Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Needed to read this today. Things have been great- just got back from a lovely vacation together that we needed. Then...boom, crash, etc! Back in the pit this week.

Just breathing right now!

Posts: 37 | Registered: Sep 2012
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When I was at your point, I packed the car up twice. I haven't don't that now in a long time but R is not a straight line

Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.

Posts: 1820 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: midwest now.
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Default  Posted: 1:55 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

just yesterday, i told him he could "get the f out." and meant it. up and down. that is for sure.

BS (41):(Former Doormat)
WS (39):(Busted Cheater)
Married: 10 years, 3 kids under 5
DD1: 10/11 PA/EA with pilates instructor/former stripper.
DD2: 10/12 False r, cheating with other women, online dating,Substance abuse issues.
R:Last chance

Posts: 1058 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Alabama
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Member # 32900
Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have not seen anything linear in my life since we had kids LOL. You are so dead on right R is not linear. Iíve know even when my W is doing everything right I still go sideways and backwards and forwards and summersault.
Glad you were able to find a path that worked

Your beliefs donít make you a better person, your behavior does.

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