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Topic: Funeral Etiquette
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mysticpenguin
♀ 38839
Member # 38839 |  Posted: 6:30 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013 |     |
Should you always attend a funeral with your SO even if you did not know the person who is deceased? [This message edited by mysticpenguin at 10:15 PM, October 19th (Saturday)]
Betrayed
Posts: 306 | Registered: Mar 2013 |
Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554 | | Posted: 6:55 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013 | |
I would go.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
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Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA |
hemademesingle
♀ 21281
Member # 21281 | | Posted: 6:56 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013 | |
I think that it is totally appropriate for you to attend with your husband, offering him support, it's hard losing someone from your "age bracket", makes one examine there own mortality
Posts: 437 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: Canada |
mysticpenguin
♀ 38839
Member # 38839 | | Posted: 7:11 PM, July 5th (Friday), 2013 | |
Thanks ladies! [This message edited by mysticpenguin at 10:16 PM, October 19th (Saturday)]
Betrayed
Posts: 306 | Registered: Mar 2013 |
MoreThanMe
♀ 25451
Member # 25451 | | Posted: 7:10 AM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013 | |
Someone once told me- "if you are thinking whether or not you should go to a funeral-you should go."
Brevity, typos & misspellings provided by my ipad and fatigue.
It's been 4 years, SA husband sober. We're doing okay. Today.
fWH had ONS with High School Principal he met on Ashley.com. 08/25/2009
Posts: 705 | Registered: Sep 2009 |
authenticnow
♀ 16024
Member # 16024 | | Posted: 1:55 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013 | |
I don't think you should worry about others will think. And one of my pet peeves is someone telling you how you will feel. You get to decide that. If you're not worried about feeling awkward, your H shouldn't be.
I don't think it's ever wrong to be there as a support for your partner.
“Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of “you’re not alone.” ~ Brene Brown
Posts: 54995 | Registered: Sep 2007 |
Rollercoaster
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Member # 1298 | | Posted: 11:02 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013 | |
My husband went to a funeral with me today and neither one of us knew the deceased!! She was the wife of a guy who delivers to the company I work for (so I know HIM). I just felt like I should pay my respects for HIM. And hubby volunteered to go with me and we were both glad we went. Go. :)
Me BS 55, WS 55
Reconciled
Posts: 4059 | Registered: Mar 2003 | From: California |
Nature_Girl
♀ 32554
Member # 32554 | | Posted: 11:17 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013 | |
Based on what you said he said, I think even more strongly that you should go.
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
Posts: 10722 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA |
itainteasy
♀ 31094
Member # 31094 | | Posted: 11:09 AM, July 8th (Monday), 2013 | |
My friend's father passed away last week...and my fiance came to the funeral home with me, even though he never met the deceased, and doesn't know my friend that well.
I told him he didn't have to come, and he said "YOU knew him, and you know her, and you are hurting, and I want to support you."
I was happy he came. I appreciated his support.
Posts: 3446 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA |
lynnm1947
♀ 15300
Member # 15300 | | Posted: 2:20 PM, July 8th (Monday), 2013 | |
Am I the only cynical person who thinks maybe there's an underhanded reason why he doesn't want you to attend with him--like maybe he'd like to get up to something with some other grade-school friend?
Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
Posts: 8740 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada |
itainteasy
♀ 31094
Member # 31094 | | Posted: 8:35 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013 | |
^Nope.
Posts: 3446 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: NWPA |
movingforward777
♀ 6850
Member # 6850 | | Posted: 11:41 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013 | |
I would look at it as an opportunity to meet some of the people from that "other circle" with your H.....
It is never out of line to extend sympathies to others when they have suffered a loss....I know I would want my other half with me.....sorry for his loss....HUGS 
You can't reach for anything new if your hands are still full of yesterday's junk.......Louise Smith
Posts: 4877 | Registered: Apr 2005 | From: Ontario |
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