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tearsofjade posted 7/6/2013 10:11 AM

Hello all,

I haven't been here in a while, need some advice from the one group of people I know who are completely honest.

Here's the problem, after my D from WH I dating a guy and we got engaged. Long story short we broke up and had an on again off again for a few months. He lied to me about quitting smoking and I broke up with him and that started the on again off again thing.

We started dating again after not seeing each other for about 8 months. He says he believes we were meant to be together and he was devastated when we broke up for the last time. We have been talking over what went wrong before and he says he loves me and always has.

Here is my dilemma we were texting a few days ago and he says "Can't wait to see my Gina." My name is not Gina and I know that we dated a Gina during one of our breakups but has dated others since then. He said he hit the G, my name starts with J and it put in the wrong name. So I again ask him if he is seeing anyone and he says no.

This weekend he is in Cleveland for the baseball games, we live near Detroit. I texted him yesterday at 4 and asked if he was there yet and got a couple of brief texts at 8 saying yes.

I text him this morning about 9 and he called about 20 min later but I missed the call. I called him back 10 min after his call and he didn't answer and I haven't gotten any text either.

He isn't the kind of person that is hooked to their cell, but I find it odd that he can't find time to send a text or return my call, even if he is with "the guys" he knows in Cleveland.

So my BS meter is registering pretty high. He and I had a lot of great times together and I was hoping we could get it right this time, but i really don't want to be cheated on again or just an option for someone.

Thanks for reading my vent. Just getting it out helps some.

Williesmom posted 7/6/2013 11:06 AM

Sure stinks to me.

If I were you, I'd call Gina's house and see if she is there.

((Tears)). This stuff sucks.

tearsofjade posted 7/6/2013 11:33 AM

Thank you for the reply. I would call Gina's house but I don't know where she lives or her last name. I do know what hotel he is staying. I have decided I am going to go back to IC, I am having a double mastectomy the end of Aug. (no cancer, high risk) so I think the BF thing needs to finally be over and get myself some help. I don't want to feel like I need to become a stalker to find the truth.

Kajem posted 7/6/2013 14:18 PM

I think the same way you are... and I wouldn't want to become a stalker over this. I hated myself doing that to get the answers I already knew in my gut.


((((((tearsofjade))))))

tearsofjade posted 7/6/2013 22:21 PM

I texted him this afternoon and asked if he would please call me after the baseball game. I got a text back that just said "yes".

The game was over more than 3 hours ago. No phone call. Not a big surprise. I am going to wait for him to call and see what lame excuse he comes up with. He may call in the morning while she is in the shower or something. Once he gets back I am sure he will text at that point I will call and let him know I believe he was with her and I don't want to have anything to do with him EVER!!

ThoughtIKnewYa posted 7/6/2013 23:11 PM

He's still seeing Gina.

Triggery name there as it's what H called me during his A. My name starts with M.

(((toj)))

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