My question is does anyone go out by themselves for a drink/dancing? Just really think once and a while it would be nice for a change of 4 walls.
But, what does it look like to be a single women (56) out at a bar?
I can only go to so many movies, read so many books. Just feeling a little stir crazy.
They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen
It's ok... but I would like to go out with a GF or 2 dancing and just have fun.
I need new friends... I am working on it.. but it takes time.
As for drinks and dancing, I have not, for me I would feel uncomfortable being a single female in a bar. I completely understand your situation since I am in it myself. Everyone seems busy with families etc.
I spen a lot of time walking my dogs, or just window shopping if I want to get out of the house.
I think the big excursion tomorrow is going to be a facial and a pedi.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
When I'm feeling lonely or bored, I exercise. Really helps in the short term, but doesn't solve the problem.
Which is why I'm on the hairy edge of signing up for dancing lessons.
Check out other meetups that have dancing and bands. I have been to a few wine meetups that are nice.
You could take a class in something you were always interested in and meet someone new that way.
I enjoy meetups because they span from sporting events to dinners to hiking. I go to dance places with women I met through meetup and other activities.
Have fun and try new things- it is interesting to learn how you respond to new situations.
my two cents.
[This message edited by missherlots at 4:47 PM, July 7th (Sunday)]
But, I go out to dinner and to the movies alone all the time. It doesn't bother me at all.
At first, I stuck to times that were not popular with other people, such as an early dinner and a day time movie. Now, I can do these things alone anytime. Although, since I work nights and I'm off a lot during the week, I do tend to do things at off times anyways.
My IC told me once that a person isn't truly whole until they completely and totally embrace being alone. That includes doing things for yourself, by yourself. For me, it's been empowering to get on with my life and not put off doing things just because I'm single. In the end, I think it will be the thing that my children and friends and family will remember the most fondly about me...that I just got on with it.
[This message edited by hurtinky at 9:51 PM, July 7th (Sunday)]
[This message edited by Hopeful Lady at 10:45 AM, July 10th (Wednesday)]
I go out and do so many things by myself that it is actually very hard for me to do anything with someone else!
I think some of us hit a 'reset' button that sends us back to childhood. I spent a lot of time on my own as a kid and enjoyed it a lot.
Just got back from a social weekend and it was a lot of fun, being so out of the ordinary for me, but I also enjoyed retiring to my hotel room alone afterwards.
I couldn't handle being stuck on a boat for five days!
Actually, when other women in groups find out I am there alone, they always invite me to join them.
I rarely let anyone know I am there alone, especially at a bar. I just say...my girlfriend is meeting me, she went to the bathroom, but she's not back yet, she met someone and is on the other side of the bar talking to them, etc. Safety first.
Its actually curbed the lonliness because I meet and talk with new people.
I would say go for it if you are thinking about it!
I also have trouble concentrating at home, so I got into the habit last semester of studying at a sports bar near my house. I go if it's not busy, sit at the end of the bar, and read textbooks. The bartenders are really friendly and understanding that I drink more water than beer, but they keep both glasses full, and I tip extremely well.
It's hard for me to justify the expense of eating out alone, so I don't do that much, but I do enjoy it too.
OIAL; very brave to think about dancing.
Still looking to find my "inner hobby". I have lost some joy for the ones I use to have do to the past 18 months.
I may try going out alone. We will see.