Topic: I only cried 4 times today...
Member # 39707
| Posted: 10:15 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013|
..and I'm calling that progress!!
Yeah, the day isn't quite over but, that is the lowest count since Dday so, seems like a milestone or something.
Now who is going to bake me a cake or something?
Him: doesn't matter anymore
D-day 14 June 2013
I'm smart, good looking and gosh darn it, people like me!
Posts: 317 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: trying to figure it out
Member # 22870
| Posted: 10:17 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013|
Woohoo!! That's progress. Keep going!
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 8283 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 39169
| Posted: 10:18 PM, July 6th (Saturday), 2013|
We take our victories where we can! Sending you a virtual cake!
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
Time is a great healer but a terrible beautician.
Posts: 738 | Registered: May 2013
Member # 39319
| Posted: 10:42 AM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013|
It takes time. I cried everyday for a few weeks then only a few times a week. Now I only cry when I talk about it (and occasionally when I think too much). Take your victories as they come, I'm baking you a cake now, decorated with a huge smile.
Me - 25
FWH (BF at the time of A) - 27
DD - 10 weeks
His other daughter - 1 1/2
DDay - May 9
"You are strong and brave." - My fortune shortly after DDay, the cookie knew just what to say.
Posts: 19 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Tennessee
Member # 24938
| Posted: 11:13 AM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013|
That is progress.
I cried every day, most of the day for a year after d-day! I was traumatized by his LTA.
Then it was once a week for another year....and gradually, because my FWH was doing everything he could to help with the R it kept getting better.
I would love to bake you a cake! Things may seem bleak now but they will get better.
It just takes time.
Long term marriage
D-day- Jan. 2007
5 yr. LTA
Posts: 3174 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: NJ
Member # 35812
| Posted: 11:30 AM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013|
Welp, I tried, but it didn't come through. But congratulations anyway!
[This message edited by Skan at 11:31 AM, July 7th, 2013 (Sunday)]
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Posts: 6005 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 39616
| Posted: 12:42 PM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013|
Huge hugs!! Take every victory no matter how small!! Ive thought the tears were never going to stop. Then for a few hours they would. Its only been a month and a few days since dday for me. And still there are days that all i wanna do is cry.
~Me~ Blindsided wife, age 37
~Him~ XWH, age 37
~Son~ age 14
~Daughter~ age 18, special needs
~Dday~ June 4th 2013
~him: several affairs during our marriage both emotional and physical, latest physical affair in may 2013~
Posts: 85 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: brokenhearted76
Member # 36813
| Posted: 1:05 PM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013|
That really is progress! I know it's hard, but try and focus on the positives. There will soon be days that you don't shed any tears, and also days you might actually put the A out of your mind for a whole day! It's so consuming in the beginning! Hang in there!
Posts: 291 | Registered: Sep 2012
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