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User Topic: today is 11 years
♀ 37476
Member # 37476
Shutup  Posted: 11:05 AM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today is the day I said I do. For the past week, i haven't been myself due to being caught in the cycle of thinking wedding anniversary doesn't mean anything. Look at what happened. I don't want to celebrate being cheated on and still staying.

This morning wh asks if I am ok. I say no. He replies do you just want me to leave the house? I am floored by it. Sadness and crying insue then anger hits. I have repeatedly asked for comfort and apologies when I am like this. He rarely delivers. Tells me he can't. I hear I won't. He says he doesn't have 2-5 years to wait for me to getover it. He ddoesn't want to be around someone who is sad and moody.

Thank you wh for making a shitty day even shittier. As if I don't feel horrible enough, please add to it. I hope you enjoy reading this. I know you lurk on here but obviously that hasn't done much to help.

Posts: 273 | Registered: Nov 2012
♀ 31558
Member # 31558
Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What an a$$hole! I've gotten a lot of the same emotionally retarded responses from my WH. When will these guys learn that it's in their own self interest to be a real man, take responsibility for their mistakes and make amends? The longer they take to man up, the more damage they cause. We can choose to heal on our own but that would require being on our own and not having the trigger of an unremorseful spouse around. You will get better with him or without him. Given that he's already decided to be a jerk today, I suggest you go out and do something special for yourself, maybe invite a girlfriend.

[This message edited by Ladyogilvy at 11:13 AM, July 7th (Sunday)]

Me: BW a youthful 51
Him: alcoholic, sober now, WH 58
Married 21 years
Two sons, 18 & 19 years old
DD? He's still keeping secrets and only admits to what I have indisputable
evidence of... the $2000 earrings he bought her for x-mas.

Posts: 1585 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: California
♀ 37476
Member # 37476
Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just started ic. The c told me my marriage may not survive me getting stronger. Honestly I don't know what to think about that. I have had nine months of dealing by myself. I am tired. So very tired. I can't do it alone anymore, I can't stay where I am at emotionally. I don't know if I can do anything. Currently crying my eyes out alone in the bedroom. Told wh if he can't do anything I asked at least take care of the kids so they don't see me like this.

Another fun thing he said. He is tired of the family being dictated by my moods. It is so easy to blame me and not his own actions that help set off the rollercoaster.

Posts: 273 | Registered: Nov 2012
♀ 37765
Member # 37765
Default  Posted: 11:59 AM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry. (((blameitontherain)))

You deserve so much more. Particularly on your wedding anniversary

Taking it one day at a time.

Posts: 466 | Registered: Dec 2012
♀ 37476
Member # 37476
Default  Posted: 8:14 AM, July 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I went out and did something by myself. The gps on my phone (we both have it ) registered as me being at a bar. I wasn't but technology isnt always accurate. Wh texted asking if that was where I was. It showed I was there for 2 hours. I wonder if he was worried.

Posts: 273 | Registered: Nov 2012
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