Well...it finally happened. He actually read my phone with my texts, with my concerns of him and wanting to kick him out. So that worked out.
Brief story: lots and lots of prostitutes since at least 2010 when he got his smartphone. And, recently, a prostitute and him are planning on making a porno together.
I have integrated messaging on his phone, with his permission from the last time I kicked him out. This is how integrated messaging works, because its new, I don't think people know how it works.
I download an app on my iPad or I can log into my computer. Every time he sends a text message, a copy of it goes to my iPad. So even when he deletes his text on his phone, I always get a copy of it on my iPad. And it stays there until I remove it.
So I have texts back and forth with prostitutes. Explicit messages. I told him I can see these messages and that I get a copy. I have access to his emails, going back years to present of the prostitutes.
And when he says he's going to move out, what does he do? He says its all MY FAULT!!!
He then denies EVERYTHING! He says he hasn't been doing anything and has been a good boy!
I tell him that it doesn't matter that he deletes text on his phone because I still know what he has been doing.
And what's he say? He blames me some more, says I haven't been doing my part in the marriage.
And thanks to these forums, I say, "you're right. I'm responsible for 50% of the relationship. You're responsible for 100% of the affair. Oh wait, I mean, affairssssss! I'm the one who was cheated on. Not you! You have severe mental problems and you need help! And you're no going to get help until you take responsible for yourself and stop lying!
More denying. More blame.
Thank you to SI forums! Thank you for the healing library.
If I hadn't have read the forums and the articles here. I wouldn't have been prepared for the blame shifting and denial, when faced with the truth.
He was outright lying and I have him caught red handed!!!!
How can he blame me and keep lying!!!
Because he is constantly saying I'm the one who can't communicate well, I said to him, if you got help, you would be mentally healthy and then you would be able to communicate better.
He flipped his top, because I beat him to his punch line of blame.
Damn him! Damn him! Damn him an his lies! I'm tired of this stress!
[This message edited by Athena1979 at 3:35 PM, July 7th (Sunday)]
Don't put up with it anymore. You know he is lying. Don't let him play you anymore.
He should have thought about where he was going to live when he was dumping 225 an hour on prostitutes.
My 2 cents
I missed this one because I WS getting so angry. I should have said, "you came back because I LET YOU COME BACK ON GROUNDS THAT YOU STOP BUYING PROSTITUTES!"
But you can also access through My Verizon. You sign in under his phone number through my Verizon.
Then you go to "my Verizon", then to "my messaging". This brings you to another page. Click on "go to Web app" and then click on integrated messaging.
This will sign his phone up for integrated messaging. It will send a text to his phone. Enter the code on the computer ad then another text is sent to his phone to confirm.
There are privacy issues to this. And remember, I had his permission to do this and set it up with him in front of me.
Its kind of like call forwarding, except with texts and both devices get a copy of the text.
I actually began using it on my iPad when I was in meetings and didn't bring my phone. I could still receive the texts on my iPad.
This sex pervert, wanna be porno star is NOT coming back!
Such a moron! So short sighted!
What does he think an ultimatum is?
He thinks I'm going to fold. I know he's counting on it.
Not going to happen!
Hes so damn stupid he doesn't even realize how stupid he is yet!
I have counselor numbers through my jobs EAP that I will be calling tomorrow. After my breakdown on Friday, I need to get my head o straight.
And EAP is supposed to be sending me attorney numbers on Monday. I will find out what an attorney has to say.
Going to suspend my cable and phone services. To help save money.
Prinitng old emails for him to hand to an attorney.
I have his old phones that have old texts and emails still on them...to hand to an attorney.
His reasoning has been that he just started with cheating recently because I'm so big bad and mean.
The emails can provide proof that I am not at fault. And the only reason I care about that is for custody purposes.
My goal: to only allow him supervised visitations with my girls.
He's a sex addict and a sex offender and solicits prostitutes.
[This message edited by Athena1979 at 5:18 PM, July 7th (Sunday)]
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.” ― Pema Chödrön
Now, I caught earlier that you've nicknamed him: Movie Star, but I think we can do better don't you...? I think you should open it up to a vote, give a little background to his penchants and let the frustrated SI BS's take another stab at it. The porno movie thing is just too tempting.
You're doing great! Anger has its place and can help to get things done. Stay strong!
I agree with everything said. And I agree with what you are doing. Kudos to you, girl. You are showing him you have bigger balls than him - just that you wear them on your chest.
That would be awesome! My little movie star can earn something a little more bite to it.
He just text me and asked for my wedding ring back.
I told him, "no. You cheated. Not me."
And I left it at that.
I've been nice and civil to this jackwad of moronism long enough.
He will never make himself better if he never takes responsibility for himself. Idiot.
Btw, changing locks really was quite easy! Yeah me!
Oh...and you ever have something or do something out wish you never did. To fix it, all you have to do is say that it ne'er happened and ... Poof ... Magic! It simply never happened.
Ok. Lets give this a try, I was never with a rotten, dirty, no good, lying, cheating man...hmmm. It's not working.
Wow! My WH really was magic.
There ya go. New nickname for my "movie star" hubby. New nickname, ladies and gentlemen, boys and girls, introducing the magic entertainer who can make things like hey never happened, Mr. Houdini!!!!
You can see right through him and it's going to piss him off like nothing else. Just keep in mind that if it is coming from him it's pure, concentrated bull from the warped mind of a crazy person.
On a less serious note:
Mr. Houdini: Jackwad of Moronism
Now that^^ has potential!!!
I have to just keep repeating to myself: I'm not to blame. Im not to blame."
He's not going to change. He's a liar, he's a liar.
Well, the big day is finally over. The beginning of the end. I made it. I survived it.
Who knows what nonsense will happen tomorrow.
But tonight...tonight I am going to sleep in my own king size bed that I bought years ago. The bed I haven't slept in for months because I was so disgusted of the person sleeping in it.
I feel a bit sick to my stomach. But tonight I will sleep. And just sleep.
We will see what "magic" tomorrow will bring.
