I know I've been posting alot here this weekend.
Well...it finally happened. He actually read my phone with my texts, with my concerns of him and wanting to kick him out. So that worked out.
Brief story: lots and lots of prostitutes since at least 2010 when he got his smartphone. And, recently, a prostitute and him are planning on making a porno together.
I have integrated messaging on his phone, with his permission from the last time I kicked him out. This is how integrated messaging works, because its new, I don't think people know how it works.
I download an app on my iPad or I can log into my computer. Every time he sends a text message, a copy of it goes to my iPad. So even when he deletes his text on his phone, I always get a copy of it on my iPad. And it stays there until I remove it.
So I have texts back and forth with prostitutes. Explicit messages. I told him I can see these messages and that I get a copy. I have access to his emails, going back years to present of the prostitutes.
And when he says he's going to move out, what does he do? He says its all MY FAULT!!!
He then denies EVERYTHING! He says he hasn't been doing anything and has been a good boy!
I tell him that it doesn't matter that he deletes text on his phone because I still know what he has been doing.
And what's he say? He blames me some more, says I haven't been doing my part in the marriage.
And thanks to these forums, I say, "you're right. I'm responsible for 50% of the relationship. You're responsible for 100% of the affair. Oh wait, I mean, affairssssss! I'm the one who was cheated on. Not you! You have severe mental problems and you need help! And you're no going to get help until you take responsible for yourself and stop lying!
More denying. More blame.
Thank you to SI forums! Thank you for the healing library.
If I hadn't have read the forums and the articles here. I wouldn't have been prepared for the blame shifting and denial, when faced with the truth.
He was outright lying and I have him caught red handed!!!!
How can he blame me and keep lying!!!
Because he is constantly saying I'm the one who can't communicate well, I said to him, if you got help, you would be mentally healthy and then you would be able to communicate better.
He flipped his top, because I beat him to his punch line of blame.
Damn him! Damn him! Damn him an his lies! I'm tired of this stress!
[This message edited by Athena1979 at 3:35 PM, July 7th (Sunday)]