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Topic: He won't tell

soveryweary
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Posted: 5:00 PM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013

I politely asked when he would tell his family since I am extremely close to my mother in law and his sister is one of my closest friends. He said, "Sovery, I don't feel the need to tell right now. I eventually will tell Larry, moe and curly.(his three best friends), since they are who I see the most."
He has always been eh about his family, the sun rises and sets on his one best friend.
His total lack of regard for the members of his family is appalling on so many levels.
WHO IS THIS MAN????
I just pray my heart catches up with my head soon. I am my user name.

Divorced 1/3/14 after 31 years of marriage.

Posts: 644 | Registered: May 2011

hurtbs
♀ 10866
Member # 10866

Posted: 5:30 PM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013

Big hugs (((sovery)))

Has he always been an avoider? Sounds like that's what he's doing.

Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid

Posts: 15606 | Registered: Jun 2006

inconnu
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Member # 24518

Posted: 5:45 PM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013

(((soveryweary)))

I ended up being the one who told my (now-ex) mil & fil, 4 months after I filed for divorce, and after now-ex was already living with OW. I think they knew he wasn't living at the house, but they didn't know about the divorce. I viewed it as yet more more of his messes I had to clean up, as if I hadn't had enough to deal with at the time.

When a man gives his opinion, he's a man. When a woman gives her opinion, she's a bitch. - Bette Davis

Posts: 12968 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartof, Texas

GabyBaby
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Member # 26928

Posted: 5:46 PM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013

XWH didn't tell his family either. I emailed my ex-MIL when I filed. I never heard from her or their side of the family again.
I can't say that I'm real choked up about it either.

Me - 45
DD(24), DS(21, PDD-NOS)

WH#2 (SorryinSac)- Killed himself (May 2015) in our home 6 days after being served divorce docs.
XWH #1 - legally married 18yrs. 12+ OW (that I know of).

I edit often for clarity/typos.

Posts: 9947 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Here and There

peridot
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Member # 18334

Posted: 6:00 PM, July 7th (Sunday), 2013

If it ever comes up or they start asking you questions, you should tell the truth. You also shouldn't hide anything.

I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.

Posts: 4916 | Registered: Feb 2008

fraeuken
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Member # 30742

Posted: 12:41 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013

I had to tell too. He was too much of a coward to do so. Don't lie for him, if it comes up, tell.

Temporarily independent with the whole world at my feet.

Posts: 1306 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: California

soveryweary
♀ 32265
Member # 32265

Posted: 1:21 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013

I'm avoiding them as best I can because I don't want to p him off before all is said and done. Just went to the lawyers yesterday. He's being nice, but I can see he's starting to lose it. His mask came off and I'm the one who sees that.

Divorced 1/3/14 after 31 years of marriage.

Posts: 644 | Registered: May 2011

doggiemom12
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Member # 36041

Posted: 4:56 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013

I told everyone. Not my secret to keep. He didn't like it but too bad.

He made alot of noise and threats but he did nothing. A coward through and through.

White bird must fly or she will die . . .

Posts: 268 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: in divorce land

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