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Remembered something weird that happened last year.

H likes to rewrite history and paint me as the villain.

He also likes to rewrite history painting his XW as a good person.

There was an old, old movie taken from his vaca where XW stayed home and per him, was shacked up with OM who she later married.

For some reason, he digs this moldy thing out so he can watch it.

He warns me that XW is on it and I might not like it.

I tell him I've seen it before and she's not on it because she didn't go.

He is violently insisting she went on this trip with the family and getting really angry at me for telling him no she isn't.

I stop and do something else while he watches the video.

And sure enough, I'm right.

There is a long scene where he's telling XW how much they miss her, love her and wish she could be there.

"So, if she went on this trip with you, why would this scene be in the movie? And why are you so desperate to tell me otherwise?"

It made absolutely no sense to me how he was trying to rewrite history to paint XW into someone who wasn't so bad.

Why do this after almost 20 years?

Another little thing that makes me go hmm about him and XW.

Thoughts?

I don't know. Maybe because he hasn't delt with those feelings? So he writes them off as good, so he doesn't have to go back and feel pain. Because if he felt pain, he might have to deal with what is going on in the marriage right now?

It was about that time that it really started to sink in that his superfine mind was well undone.