I have to rant and be bitchy and catty here,because there's nowhere else I can let it out. She's ugly. Ugly. and the complete and utter opposite of me. Short light hair,tall,a bigger girl(not fat,though). No one anyone would look twice at. Tooting my own horn here,but heads still turn when I walk in a room. Did he do it on purpose,choose someone my complete opposite? Was it easier to cheat with someone who didn't remind him of me? Did he need to try something else? Progress,though,because the one question I am not asking myself is whether or not there was something wrong with me.
Knowing she got married has me doubting WH's account of their "relationship"...she posted on FB that she met the guy who is now her husband around the same time she stopped sleeping with WH. He said he ended it,she said it was a mutual decision. WH and I are solidly in R,and making progress. I'm healing,and he's doing whatever he can,whenever he can, to help. I have zero doubts that it's over,so I'm trying to self talk my way through those doubts. FB is the freaking devil.
I haven't told her bf yet so I stalk. I told the husband if she gets engaged or he gets a new job I'm telling.
I went for like 4 days without checking her out and then the husband got invited to hang out with work friends. She was invited so he didn't go.
I hate her so much.
" Noone can make you feel inferior without your consent" Eleanor Ro
[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 2:08 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)]
I store her pics in my phone and put mustaches on her face...yea I'm easily amused.
This though, made me snort my coffee.....thanks for the great laugh to start the day!
Finally this is R 8/14/13
"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".
Her occasional posts are typically boring ~ as is her life, which is why she went looking for online romance, I suppose.
After I contacted her through fb to get the details on the A, she changed her name on fb, opened a new account, etc. My assumption is she did it so I couldn't track her. Little does she know I know ALL her aliases (we're up to 4), her place of employment, home address, cell phone number, relatives on fb....I even know how much she paid for her house!
She considers herself a "computer nerd" but for someone who claims to be so techie, she is amazingly unsecured on the web.
Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.
"Every decision you make indicates what you believe you are worth."
It doesn't really make a difference at this point though. I have no idea whether or not they really went NC. (I'm starting to suspect not as WH has been really down lately ... hmmn)
I am not sure she's unable to stalk me, but don't really care any more. Conversely, I have no interest in her pathetic lie of a life. I've had enough pain; I don't need to harvest more.
Incidentally, I also have blocked WH on FB. I have no idea whether he's still in touch with her, but that's where they discovered they were star-crossed lovers, and I have no interest in seeing anything from her on his wall.
Or--even more--anything from him.
Blocking is tremendously freeing.
Now, OW deleted its page. No more laughs at OW's expense. It doesn't bother me at all that it deleted its page. Actually, I hope it deleted its page because it couldn't stop looking at my happy FB page. OW blocked and unblocked me many times.
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak!" ~ Homer Simpson
Before that...absolutely! I used to post happy pictures of hubby and I all the time!!!