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gettingthere2013 posted 7/8/2013 21:40 PM

That would be me. Not as often as I used to,but WH is out with a friend tonight(most definitely a friend of our marriage...he ripped WH a new one over his A and holds him accountable,so no worries there). What do I do? Yep. FB stalk OW. She got married last month...there were pictures on FB of her,the new H,and their new blended family. No,he doesn't know-I never told him,don't plan on it,but that's another post

I have to rant and be bitchy and catty here,because there's nowhere else I can let it out. She's ugly. Ugly. and the complete and utter opposite of me. Short light hair,tall,a bigger girl(not fat,though). No one anyone would look twice at. Tooting my own horn here,but heads still turn when I walk in a room. Did he do it on purpose,choose someone my complete opposite? Was it easier to cheat with someone who didn't remind him of me? Did he need to try something else? Progress,though,because the one question I am not asking myself is whether or not there was something wrong with me.

Knowing she got married has me doubting WH's account of their "relationship"...she posted on FB that she met the guy who is now her husband around the same time she stopped sleeping with WH. He said he ended it,she said it was a mutual decision. WH and I are solidly in R,and making progress. I'm healing,and he's doing whatever he can,whenever he can, to help. I have zero doubts that it's over,so I'm trying to self talk my way through those doubts. FB is the freaking devil.

cuppacoffee posted 7/8/2013 21:43 PM

i do. and her bf. they just moved in together around dday.

I haven't told her bf yet so I stalk. I told the husband if she gets engaged or he gets a new job I'm telling.

I went for like 4 days without checking her out and then the husband got invited to hang out with work friends. She was invited so he didn't go.

I hate her so much.

sad12008 posted 7/8/2013 21:49 PM

I don't now, but I can empathize with the slightly obsessive level of attention to the OW at an analogous time in my journey through infidelity. I think for me it was trying to put together all the pieces, trying to make it make sense. Eventually, it all became inconsequential. Hope you get there soon, too.

Stillhurting1977 posted 7/9/2013 01:36 AM

Hahaha, I probably would but she blocked me. Bitch. What did I ever do to her? Besides marry the man she fell in love with, lol

Ostrich80 posted 7/9/2013 02:07 AM

I used to but its.private now I do see pix every once in a while, her DD is followed by mine on instagram.
I store her pics in my phone and put mustaches on her face...yea I'm easily amused.

[This message edited by Ostrich80 at 2:08 AM, July 9th (Tuesday)]

Alex CR posted 7/9/2013 06:06 AM

Occasionally I look. Didn't find OW's facebook until a couple years after DDay so I didn't even know what she looked like for a long time. But I don't look much now. It's always photos of her at another bar with another drink and it's kinda' boring to look at a 50 year old barfly.

I store her pics in my phone and put mustaches on her face...yea I'm easily amused.

This though, made me snort my coffee.....thanks for the great laugh to start the day!

PrincessPeach06 posted 7/9/2013 06:15 AM

Nope, we blocked her and the alter egos she used to keep sending us messages.

Mack9512 posted 7/9/2013 08:02 AM

I check her out occasionally. I have noticed that every time she peeks at my fWH's LinkedIn page she changes her picture on FB to one with full face of makeup and whatnot. Too bad my fWH closed down his FB page so that she couldn't contact him that way (like others posted she tried using a fake account to break NC.) He will never see her glamour "I'm a cheatin' whore" shots.

JanaGreen posted 7/9/2013 08:07 AM

I don't. Looking at those pictures = one-way ticket on the express train to crazy town to me. Every time I give into the urge to look, I regret it immensely.

shatteredheart7 posted 7/9/2013 08:20 AM

After I finally tracked down her FB, she used a combination of her 11 yr old daughters name and her name, I would check it once a day. But she never puts any pics of herself on it, only NASCAR pics, and she only has 10 friends. Three of those are her grown kids. She is boring to watch. I sent her a message on FB and she blocked me. Every once in a while I check her kids FB on the FB that my FWH and I share now (she doesn't know about it so we aren't blocked on it). There are NO pics of her on any of them. Even pics of their hs graduation, are all of their dad and step mom. Same with her daughters son, no pics of her with him but plenty with all his other grandparents. I have decided she isn't worth it, seems her kids would agree. One of her daughters posted this... "I'm back and better than ever, I know I am better than my mother"

WeepingBuddhist posted 7/9/2013 09:09 AM

I did for a while but I blocked her. It was really freeing.

musiclovingmom posted 7/9/2013 09:50 AM

I used to - two of them. One changed her profile to private and since she lives across the country, we don't have any mutual friends. The other one blocked me in a fit of fury when I commented on her 'poor me' posts with statements that she brought it on herself. We do have mutual friends and one lets me know when she does something particularly entertaining (she was always that person you kept on fb just to laugh at her drama). I still check up on one. I've known her since jr high and she is 7 kids of crazy and a compulsive liar. While she was sleeping with my current husband, she was also having a fling with my ex husband (sick, right). Anyway. I just like to see the tone of her posts so I can be on higher alert when she's 'broken hearted' or reminiscing about 'the one who got away'.

MartlArts posted 7/9/2013 10:46 AM

I have, now it's only occasional. FB was the means she used to reconnect with my H ~ an old HS flame. Her FB use dropped dramatically once he dropped her. She quit playing the game they had shared ~ even though she had plenty of other fellow players left.

Her occasional posts are typically boring ~ as is her life, which is why she went looking for online romance, I suppose.

dameia posted 7/9/2013 12:05 PM

I check out her page every once in a while. Also, I track her on pinterest.

After I contacted her through fb to get the details on the A, she changed her name on fb, opened a new account, etc. My assumption is she did it so I couldn't track her. Little does she know I know ALL her aliases (we're up to 4), her place of employment, home address, cell phone number, relatives on fb....I even know how much she paid for her house!

She considers herself a "computer nerd" but for someone who claims to be so techie, she is amazingly unsecured on the web.

GonnaGetThru posted 7/9/2013 12:20 PM

Yep, I used to be obsessed with watching both OW. I finally blocked them, and my stupid wannabe OW cousin. Both OW friended a bunch of FWH's friends/family (most didn't know the situation) for "sympathy." I quickly got sick of seeing the crap on my newsfeed so BLOCK! Felt good to let go, honestly.

m334455 posted 7/9/2013 13:00 PM

Very rarely, but I did today. I heard they were moving and wondered if I could find out where. Don't know, but people were commenting "out there" and her sister in law was writing "it won't be the same" so I'm assuming it's nice and far away.

It doesn't really make a difference at this point though. I have no idea whether or not they really went NC. (I'm starting to suspect not as WH has been really down lately ... hmmn)

solus sto posted 7/9/2013 13:34 PM

No. I blocked her. When I found she was stalking me on SI, I had my kids block her on FB, too---using every email address WS was willing to offer up.

I am not sure she's unable to stalk me, but don't really care any more. Conversely, I have no interest in her pathetic lie of a life. I've had enough pain; I don't need to harvest more.

Incidentally, I also have blocked WH on FB. I have no idea whether he's still in touch with her, but that's where they discovered they were star-crossed lovers, and I have no interest in seeing anything from her on his wall.

Or--even more--anything from him.

Blocking is tremendously freeing.

SisterMilkshake posted 7/9/2013 15:02 PM

Yep, raising my hand. Although, I wouldn't say stalk. I didn't know it had a FB page for a long time. Then, I found it. I visited its page once in awhile 'cause OW was so pathetic and stupid, always acting the victim, it was actually amusing to me and I didn't trigger.

Now, OW deleted its page. No more laughs at OW's expense. It doesn't bother me at all that it deleted its page. Actually, I hope it deleted its page because it couldn't stop looking at my happy FB page. OW blocked and unblocked me many times.

crestfallen posted 7/9/2013 15:09 PM

Blocked her when she friended the daughter of my friend with whom she would have had no reason to contact...(like an ex coworkers daughter...like 9 years ex)....long story, but she clearly was trying to see what's going on on this end!

Before that...absolutely! I used to post happy pictures of hubby and I all the time!!!

crestfallen posted 7/9/2013 15:09 PM

Blocked her when she friended the daughter of my friend with whom she would have had no reason to contact...(like an ex coworkers daughter...like 9 years ex)....long story, but she clearly was trying to see what's going on on this end!

Before that...absolutely! I used to post happy pictures of hubby and I all the time!!!

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