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Reconciliation :
celebrating a baby step

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 gettingthere2013 (original poster member #38232) posted at 4:00 AM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

WH is getting it,truly understanding for the first time since DDay.

The last few days have been triggery...btw,be forewarned if your read "The Affair",a book about an affair from the POV of the BS,WS,and OW. Reading that book had me asking tons of questions(that have all been asked and answered before) and being very needy,clingy,and moody. He stayed close to home,brought me flowers,put on our wedding song in the kitchen and asked me to dance. Best of all was when I was crying and babbling about how I was sorry I was ruining a good night with my issues and I know I'm not healing fast enough. He stopped me and said that no,HE was sorry-sorry he put me in a place that I needed to heal from,he was there for the long haul no matter how long it takes me to heal,and that I'll probably trigger in one form or another for the rest of my life,and he will be there to hold me through it all. His actions match his words. It feels good to start putting some money back in the trust bank. Now,if I could just stop FB snooping

Me:BW(44)
Him:WH(42)
Kids: Seven...yes,you read that right,and yes-we do know what causes them :)
Dday#1 1/29/2013(ONS with coworker)
Dday#2 4/8/2013(6 month LD PA with coworker,over for six months at time of discovery)
Separated,on road to D

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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 4:13 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

Wonderful update.

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OptimisticWife ( member #36587) posted at 4:14 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013

I'm so happy for you. Sounds like your WH truly gets it. All the best to you both.

PS- I still fall victim to the occasional FB snoop too

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Skan ( member #35812) posted at 12:35 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013

I'm glad to hear your good news!

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012


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MartlArts ( member #36130) posted at 12:41 AM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013

Gettingthere - that's awesome!

excerpt from an awesome quote "Forgiveness - the finishing of old business that allows us to experience the present, free of contamination from the past."

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