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User Topic: celebrating a baby step
♀ 38232
Member # 38232
Default  Posted: 10:00 PM, July 8th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

WH is getting it,truly understanding for the first time since DDay.

The last few days have been triggery...btw,be forewarned if your read "The Affair",a book about an affair from the POV of the BS,WS,and OW. Reading that book had me asking tons of questions(that have all been asked and answered before) and being very needy,clingy,and moody. He stayed close to home,brought me flowers,put on our wedding song in the kitchen and asked me to dance. Best of all was when I was crying and babbling about how I was sorry I was ruining a good night with my issues and I know I'm not healing fast enough. He stopped me and said that no,HE was sorry-sorry he put me in a place that I needed to heal from,he was there for the long haul no matter how long it takes me to heal,and that I'll probably trigger in one form or another for the rest of my life,and he will be there to hold me through it all. His actions match his words. It feels good to start putting some money back in the trust bank. Now,if I could just stop FB snooping

Kids: Seven...yes,you read that right,and yes-we do know what causes them :)
Dday#1 1/29/2013(ONS with coworker)
Dday#2 4/8/2013(6 month LD PA with coworker,over for six months at time of discovery)
Separated,on road to D

Posts: 108 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: South
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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wonderful update.

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♀ 36587
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Default  Posted: 10:14 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so happy for you. Sounds like your WH truly gets it. All the best to you both.

PS- I still fall victim to the occasional FB snoop too

Posts: 191 | Registered: Aug 2012
♀ 35812
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm glad to hear your good news!

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 6301 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
♀ 36130
Member # 36130
Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gettingthere - that's awesome!

excerpt from an awesome quote "Forgiveness - the finishing of old business that allows us to experience the present, free of contamination from the past."

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