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User Topic: Moment of peace?
♂ 39758
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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So being only a few weeks out of DDay, I awoke this morning with a strage calm and sense that everything was ok.

I was wondering if this is a false calm, or I have somehow come to peace that it has happened?

Anybody else have this happen?

Posts: 6 | Registered: Jul 2013
♂ 14866
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Default  Posted: 10:20 AM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I remember some days of calmness, but they were usually followed by some rough days. All part of the roller coaster ride I took in dealing with this. So while I can't say if your calm is a false calm or not, I can tell you to enjoy the day.


Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

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Default  Posted: 12:11 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Be wary of moments of peace. I'm 31 days out from d-day and the few times I've felt peace have proven to be the calm before the storm every time. I'm hoping it's not the same for you.

Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13

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Default  Posted: 12:23 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The thing is, the storm is coming whether you enjoy the day of peace or not, so you might as well enjoy it.

We all need breaks from the intensity of the early days. Because the calm may be just a lull in the storm, it's a good idea to relax while you can.

fBH (me) - 70+, fWW, Married 45+, together 45+, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and pretty much R'ed
I share my own experience because it's all I know.

Posts: 14384 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Illinois
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Embrace the peace while you have it, orangecrushed. Rest your heart and mind. ((((hugs))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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