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n0tm3 (original poster member #37884) posted at 5:02 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013
I am having a bad day. I am triggering a lot. Reality sucks. The fantasy marriage I had in my mind was a whole lot better. We loved each other. We were faithful and dedicated to each other. We could survive anything together. Our love and relationship had been that strong for 20 years. It was all a fantasy.
Me: BS 49
Him: WH 49
DDay #1: 12/17/12; OW 52 now D after 24 years
Married 21 years, friends since 1993
3 kids; 10,16,18
Reconciling
TrustGone ( member #36654) posted at 5:10 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013
I am so sorry you are having a really bad day. Yes, the fantasy marriage we had was so much better than the reality we are now having to live. It is hard to see our marriage was not what we thought and our WS is not the person we thought we married. I still have days where I want my old marriage and husband back. Unfortunately we can't have them back again and must either create a new marriage with them or start a new life without them. It sucks either way and I just wanted you to know I feel your pain.
(((HUGS)))
XWH#2-No longer my monkey Divorced 8/15, Now married to a wonderful man.
"A person is either an asset or a lesson"
"Changing who you are with does not change who you are"
simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 5:13 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013
(((HUGS))) I'm sorry you're hurting today. 
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:59 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013
(((((n0tm3))))) These days are an uncomfortable yet necessary part of the healing process, honey. Sending you strength and comfort.
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
thecosmogirl ( member #39707) posted at 6:43 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013
I'm having a bad day too. It crushes me so bad that all those times I was telling my friends how awesome he was and he was out getting his afternoon delight 
I will send you a cyber margarita and we can watch the ocean waves together (((((big hugs))))
Me: BS
Him: doesn't matter anymore
D-day 14 June 2013
I'm smart, good looking and gosh darn it, people like me!
n0tm3 (original poster member #37884) posted at 7:08 PM on Tuesday, July 9th, 2013
I would love the margarita.
I know that it is all part of the process of healing. I wish I could choose to take a break, had some control over the pain and could have him feel what I am feeling for awhile. This is all emotionally exhausting.
Me: BS 49
Him: WH 49
DDay #1: 12/17/12; OW 52 now D after 24 years
Married 21 years, friends since 1993
3 kids; 10,16,18
Reconciling
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