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veelop5 posted 7/9/2013 14:43 PM

of thinking that this is the one...only to find out that he wasn't...I don't like this feeling...I invested over a month....now he just poofed...I know I will be fine but it really makes me not want to do this again...I am having a pity party....

lieshurt posted 7/9/2013 14:45 PM

I'm sorry Veelop5. Sometimes people are just assholes.

(((hugs)))

nowiknow23 posted 7/9/2013 15:38 PM

((((veelop))))

gma56 posted 7/9/2013 15:42 PM

Yup, I understand exactly you are saying.

jo2love posted 7/9/2013 18:24 PM

(((veelop)))

She11ybeanz posted 7/9/2013 20:03 PM

Yeah...that's my fear with Triathlon dad.... I really like him... but keep waiting for the disappearing act to begin....I've had that happen with OLD before...and it sucks!!! ((BIGHUGZ))

OnceInALifetime posted 7/9/2013 20:35 PM

Poofers are chicken shits.

It sucks to suddenly have the air go out of the sails, but poofing shows lack of character on his part, so good riddance I say. His loss, not yours.

(((veelop5)))

veelop5 posted 7/9/2013 21:35 PM

The thing is I miss him...and he doesn't miss me?? Why pretend and than just make me feel like shit!

OnceInALifetime posted 7/9/2013 22:13 PM

I suspect he really did have a good time with you. I don't think that can be faked so easily. And why would he fake that? If he didn't enjoy being with you, he wouldn't have kept it going as long as he did.

But here's where the unpleasantness comes in:

Maybe he was multi-dating, and was even more into someone else than he was into you, and decided to become exclusive with her.

Maybe someone else suddenly came along and he really wanted to pursue her.

Maybe he became afraid of being in a relationship and just bolted.

If things got intimate between you, maybe he's a player.

Every one of these is no fun. Dating can be brutal. But he's still a chicken shit for poofing with no explanation.

I.will.survive posted 7/10/2013 05:46 AM

^^^Totally agree with any of those suggestions above. :(

((hugs)) That SUCKS to be in the position of not being able to ask why? and get closure. Even though it was a short amount of time, you absolutely deserve better than a disappearing act.

stronger08 posted 7/10/2013 05:56 AM

Before you collect the milk. You must walk thru the manure to get to the cow.

veelop5 posted 7/10/2013 06:15 AM

We didn't slep together...I'm goa stick with the got scared cause he said he was..only divorced 7 months..3 small kids..distance (3 hours)..etc...etc..but before hand said I was worth it..ughhh

better4me posted 7/10/2013 09:38 AM

Ugh indeed. ((veelop5))

InnerLight posted 7/10/2013 16:39 PM

It sucks!

You do some nice things for yourself now. Pamper yourself, fun things with other friends. That old song - wash that man right outta your hair and send him on his way!

OnceInALifetime posted 7/10/2013 23:26 PM

It's discouraging how hard it is to meet someone and then have it stick. There have seemed to be a number of posts lately where guys just vanish. I don't get it. Seems like the stereotypes are true.

Sorry. Just move on and take grim consolation that at least this didn't happen 6 months from now.

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