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User Topic: Oh the high....
veelop5
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Default  Posted: 2:43 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

of thinking that this is the one...only to find out that he wasn't...I don't like this feeling...I invested over a month....now he just poofed...I know I will be fine but it really makes me not want to do this again...I am having a pity party....


ME-40
XH-DOESN'T MATTER ANYMORE
3 beautiful boys (21,20 & 17)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
10/27/2014-Met a wonderful man 9months ago
Divorce final 3/27/2013

Posts: 1098 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Pennsylvania
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 2:45 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm sorry Veelop5. Sometimes people are just assholes.

(((hugs)))


A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it all you want, but it won't go anywhere.

Posts: 13833 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 3:38 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((veelop))))


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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gma56
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Default  Posted: 3:42 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yup, I understand exactly you are saying.


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20387 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((veelop)))

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah...that's my fear with Triathlon dad.... I really like him... but keep waiting for the disappearing act to begin....I've had that happen with OLD before...and it sucks!!! ((BIGHUGZ))


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
OnceInALifetime
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Default  Posted: 8:35 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Poofers are chicken shits.

It sucks to suddenly have the air go out of the sails, but poofing shows lack of character on his part, so good riddance I say. His loss, not yours.

(((veelop5)))


BH, now divorced

Posts: 3012 | Registered: Oct 2009
veelop5
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Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The thing is I miss him...and he doesn't miss me?? Why pretend and than just make me feel like shit!


ME-40
XH-DOESN'T MATTER ANYMORE
3 beautiful boys (21,20 & 17)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
10/27/2014-Met a wonderful man 9months ago
Divorce final 3/27/2013

Posts: 1098 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Pennsylvania
OnceInALifetime
♂ 26023
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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, July 9th (Tuesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I suspect he really did have a good time with you. I don't think that can be faked so easily. And why would he fake that? If he didn't enjoy being with you, he wouldn't have kept it going as long as he did.

But here's where the unpleasantness comes in:

Maybe he was multi-dating, and was even more into someone else than he was into you, and decided to become exclusive with her.

Maybe someone else suddenly came along and he really wanted to pursue her.

Maybe he became afraid of being in a relationship and just bolted.

If things got intimate between you, maybe he's a player.

Every one of these is no fun. Dating can be brutal. But he's still a chicken shit for poofing with no explanation.


BH, now divorced

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I.will.survive
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Default  Posted: 5:46 AM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

^^^Totally agree with any of those suggestions above. :(

((hugs)) That SUCKS to be in the position of not being able to ask why? and get closure. Even though it was a short amount of time, you absolutely deserve better than a disappearing act.


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stronger08
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Default  Posted: 5:56 AM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Before you collect the milk. You must walk thru the manure to get to the cow.


You cant eat soup with chopsticks.

Posts: 5824 | Registered: Nov 2007
veelop5
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Default  Posted: 6:15 AM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We didn't slep together...I'm goa stick with the got scared cause he said he was..only divorced 7 months..3 small kids..distance (3 hours)..etc...etc..but before hand said I was worth it..ughhh


ME-40
XH-DOESN'T MATTER ANYMORE
3 beautiful boys (21,20 & 17)
Update: Moved in to my own apartment 8/7/2012
10/27/2014-Met a wonderful man 9months ago
Divorce final 3/27/2013

Posts: 1098 | Registered: Jun 2006 | From: Pennsylvania
better4me
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Default  Posted: 9:38 AM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ugh indeed. ((veelop5))


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

Posts: 3235 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
InnerLight
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Default  Posted: 4:39 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It sucks!

You do some nice things for yourself now. Pamper yourself, fun things with other friends. That old song - wash that man right outta your hair and send him on his way!


BS, now age 53, d-day 6-2-08, divorced after 17 years M and 20 together. In some ways I have not 'gotten over it'. But I am resilient and have created a good life where I am mostly happy.

Posts: 5895 | Registered: Jun 2008 | From: Rural California
OnceInALifetime
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Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, July 10th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's discouraging how hard it is to meet someone and then have it stick. There have seemed to be a number of posts lately where guys just vanish. I don't get it. Seems like the stereotypes are true.

Sorry. Just move on and take grim consolation that at least this didn't happen 6 months from now.


BH, now divorced

Posts: 3012 | Registered: Oct 2009
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