Yesterday, my WH and i had our MC session...followed by a wonderful dinner at a river front restaurant...followed by some playful shenanigans and some ridiculously overpriced drinks at a rooftop bar in the city. All in all, a really wonderful day, even with the MC session thrown in.
While walking to the car, my WH stopped me and thanked me...he said my decision to find an MC in the city instead of locally was the best decision i made for us, as it has given us some really wonderful opportunities for date nights, spending quality time together and making new memories together...he said that he was grateful for me and for everyday i give him to prove that he can be the husband i deserve. That meant a great deal to me, and really made a great night even better.
I think we were both in a really good place emotionally, for the first time in quite some time....i felt like we were really connected, in sync. On the car ride home, we started getting frisky with eachother...which eventually lead to me asking my WH to pull off to a location of my choosing...and we made love in the car.
After we finished, we were holding eachother, and my WH broke down. He was shaking, sobbing uncontrollably and harder than i have seen him cry in a while. He said how sorry he was, how he couldn't believe how he could do such a thing, how he could hurt me so, how regretful he was, and how much he loved me and would spend the rest of his life proving that to me.
I broke down as well. We sat there and cried together. After 7 months of not being able to say it...i was finally able to look at my WH and tell him i loved him...and that we are going to make it. For the first time in 7 months...i actually believe it. We still have a long, rough road ahead of us...i know that....but today, this day, i officially commit myself to R.
The people on this site have given me hope when i had none...strength when i was falling apart. You helped me hang on. I wanted to put some hope out there for those of you going thru R. Keep holding on.
What was your moment?? when did you look at your WS and realize that you did have it in you to R?
Your post brought tears to my eyes and gives me hope for better days ahead. I am so happy for you!
Me: BS Him: WH OW=UW or Ugly Whore- cow of WH UW claims to be pregnant w/ WH baby and I HATE her for it. DDay: 4/23/13 Together: 14 years Married: 10 years Kids: 3 beautiful boys. Ages: 8, 4, & 19 months Trying to R-Some days are
D-Day, June 10, 2012
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When my wife told me she WANTED to tell my parents that she had an affair. There was no reason other than true remorse that she wanted to tell them and this locked my decision to recover. Until this point I was only in it for the kids. It was an amazing point and I could have never guessed this was what I needed. It came out of no where.
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That's when I knew I made the right choice to R
I found moments like that helped me feel as though my H and I are in it together. He may have caused the devastation but I feel we are working together as a team to heal our marriage.
I confronted my H over the phone once I learnt that his EA was actually a PA. He was at work and he was too ashamed to come home that day and face me. I told him I needed him to come home and he did eventually. When he got home, he couldn't even look at me. He ended up breaking down and sobbing. I took him in my arms and let him cry on my shoulder. I could see he was sorry and that he was totally ashamed at himself. I knew then that I was going to give R a try.
[This message edited by OptimisticWife at 7:10 AM, July 10th (Wednesday)]
