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I think I can posted 7/9/2013 22:38 PM
Almost six years out...and all the work is paying off.
We say here sometimes that the WS needs to learn to give more--it's not that they aren't getting enough, it's that they aren't giving enough. And Lord knows I hate to need someone. He has learned the joy of giving and I have learned how to lean on him.
A few days ago, I thought I had screwed up royally, costing us $50K. (A long story, not worth repeating, it all turned out fine. Why do all these mistaken bills arrive on a weekend? 
)
Used to, I would have handled it myself until I had to tell him. But I realized that I needed him. I poured out my fears and he......supported me. 
He said it was an honest mistake, that the important thing was that we loved each other and that everyone was healthy. That if my fears were true we would handle it. And when I continued to freak out, he had patience.
I love him, I trust him, I lean on him. He is a rock for me. More than he ever was before. In the past, he would blame me.
It's a lot of sweat and tears and agony for YEARS and he was not a model WS, but I don't regret reconciling.
[This message edited by I think I can at 10:46 PM, July 9th (Tuesday)]
authenticnow posted 7/10/2013 05:47 AM
Beautiful post!
Thanks for sharing this .
healingk posted 7/10/2013 06:35 AM
Great place to be! Good for you and WS.
RidingHealingRd posted 7/10/2013 06:38 AM
In the past I did not believe that people could really change but I too am witnessing big changes ~ My WH claims that those that really want to change can change. It appears that yours really wanted to as well.
I am happy for you...also happy that you aren't out 50K 
OptimisticWife posted 7/10/2013 06:54 AM
Very happy for you. Thanks for posting
SorrowBhindSmile posted 7/10/2013 08:36 AM
I poured out my fears and he......supported me. In the past, he would blame me.
Thats simply amazing!! working together to achieve that is so inspiring. What a great post!!!!! 
HardenMyHeart posted 7/10/2013 23:08 PM
DriveMeCrazy posted 7/11/2013 22:23 PM
So happy to see this! I am new in r after dday 5 months ago. My h is trying very hard, and I love to see stories where it pays off.
hurt101 posted 7/12/2013 13:57 PM
This gives me hope