My fWH is an alcoholic that was 12 years sober when he decided to drink again in Jan ‘12. He hasn't had a drink since Oct '12 but has also not attended an AA meeting for over 18 months.
My fWH is also on strong medication for RLS (Restless Leg Syndrome). The long-term track record of these medications are horrible. The 2-year mark seems to be the switch for when they start messing with the user's brain chemistry and everything goes downhill from there. Addictive behavior becomes worse, new addictions appear and personalities go haywire (current research shows that 70% of men that take this drug for more than 5 years end up divorced; usually due to addictive gambling and/or sexual addictions. My fWH has been on them for just over 3 years. )
Well, during my fWH's IC session last night their talked turned to detoxing completely off all meds and starting to go to AA meetings again. I'm all for this but the meds part is freaking me out. My fWH's RLS was BAD. Real bad. I would wake up in the mornings with bruises all over my legs and arms and there were a number of nights when I was woken up due to a punch to the head...all done while he was asleep. The only way he can detox completely is if we stop sleeping in the same bed because I cannot sleep with his constant jerking combined while also having to dodge flailing limbs. His IC wants us to continue to sleep in the same room, but on separate beds just like Lucy and Desi. Our room is not big enough for another bed and I refuse to get rid of our current bed, which cost me around $5000. I could be the bigger person and say 'Yes. Let's sale the bed' but I have nerve damage in my back and spend most of the day in pain, so I refuse to give up the only bed that I have had that allows me to wake up pain free every morning. Selfish of me but after living the last 25 years in constant pain, the joy of being pain free for even a couple of hours is heaven.
Therefore, our solution is getting one of those armchairs that folds out into a bed for him to sleep on every night (he can sleep anywhere, most recently on the kitchen floor with the puppy sound asleep on his stomach). I guess my real freak out is that I am wondering if R can continue if we are not sleeping in the same bed? Are we setting ourselves up for failure? Has anyone else had any luck with this type of sleeping arrangement?