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Firea111 (original poster new member #39794) posted at 5:52 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
Not sure how forums work hehe
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 5:56 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
Welcome to SI.
JFO is for Betrayed Spouses who are dealing with the immediate aftermath of betrayal - whether there was a confession or they are noticing red flags and need help with what to do next.
You're safe here. Take your time and share when you're ready.
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"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Firea111 (original poster new member #39794) posted at 6:04 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
thanks I don't want to sound like a cry baby lol
I read the one person's that he was just numb. That is me at the moment and that scares me to death.
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confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 6:09 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
Don't worry about sounding sad...we're all sad.
Whine..bitch..cry..scream...throw pillows...go crazy..BTDT...you're safe here.
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 8:50 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
Welcome - To the best club no one ever wants to join or be a part of.
I just read your brief profile. It sounds like you are just starting to deal with what is going on. It can be very overwhelming initally. Focus on you. Make sure you are getting the 3 basics. Eating, Sleeping, and staying hydrated. If you are having trouble with those call your Dr. Many of us have to find better living through chemistry in the early days.
Read in the healing library over there on the left side of your screen.
Know that many of us here have been there, done that. It hurts like hell we know. When you are ready share, ask questions, and know that you are safe here. No one wants to hurt you.
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
womaninflux ( member #39667) posted at 9:14 PM on Wednesday, July 10th, 2013
Read your profile. Amazing that 6th sense, huh? However their lying and drive for secrecy is just as strong. Hopefully you can get a counselor for yourself. Also if you want to reconcile you are going to need couples therapy. Don't try to go through this alone. You need someone you trust to talk to. Hopefully someone who is a professional and non partisan.
BS - mid-40's
SAWH - mid 40's
Kids - 2 elementary school aged
Getting tons of therapy and trying to "work it out"
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