I thought I'd pop on and let everyone know things are going better. Our R is definitely going well and hopefully this will just be one of those things we look back on in 20 or 30 years and say "well that sucked.".
The real change came when I decided, unequivocally, to stop trying to find forgiveness in my heart for the OM (my now ex-best friend of 30+ years). I had some dumb idea, based on such a long friendship, that I should/could keep him in my life, at least on the edge somewhere. I realized that EVERY time I saw him or he texted me to come out for a beer I would get more and more ANGRY.
Once I decided to accept the fact that he was NOT my friend and to, in fact, chose to HATE him... I started to feel way better. I don't hate him in an obsessive way that eats at you, but I wouldn't attend his funeral and I might go spit on his grave!
As for my WW, she continues to show that she is sorry. I don't see any signs of her and him being in contact in anyway. I've been hyper-vigilant, especially since he started dating a neighbour of ours down the street.
Over all though.. things are going well and I want to thank everyone on here for your kind words and the occasional SMACK ACROSS THE HEAD WITH A 2x4 that I got and needed!!! :-)