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jo2love posted 7/10/2013 20:04 PM

My older sis joined Match early last week. It is a huge step for her. On a sidenote, 2 of my friends met their husbands on match.

I've given her some helpful tips based on posts here in NB. She is debating which of the following should she do when she wants to share her # with someone? (She is currently messaging with someone through Match's website).

A - Get a throw away pay as you go phone. (extra cost for phone, minutes, etc...)

B - Match offers a service for $3.33 a month to mask her phone #. (She doesn't know how reliable this is, but it's cheaper than doing A).

Also, any dating mojo for her would be appreciated.

I appreciate your help. Thank you.

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MovingUpward posted 7/10/2013 20:06 PM

sending mojo.

Does her phone plan allow her to block numbers? If so then is this still a concern?

jo2love posted 7/10/2013 20:09 PM

She wants to be able to call him and him call her. If she blocked her # then he couldn't call her...unless she did the Match thing. I think Match would somehow mask her real cell #.

Years ago, when she got divorced she got this cell #. It was one of the first things she did on her own and therefore protective of the #.
She hasn't heard from her xh for 3-4 yrs. He does have her home #, but he doesn't see my nephew which is a whole different thread.

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GabyBaby posted 7/10/2013 20:36 PM

Google Voice is free.
You get a phone number through them, then you can have any calls received "answered" by any of your other phones.
When you make calls, your GV phone number is the one that is displayed.

jo2love posted 7/10/2013 20:41 PM

This sounds like it would help her.

When you make calls, your GV phone number is the one that is displayed.

How does she make it that her real cell # shows on all calls she makes except to a match person?

phmh posted 7/10/2013 20:42 PM

I know there was a thread on this a few months back -- as a mod, do you have special search power by any chance? Because there were lots of thoughts and ideas there. I think there might be a way to get a google number for free?

My viewpoint is that in general if you're that afraid to give out your number, perhaps OLD isn't for you. But I can definitely send mojo and if she's insistent on doing one of the two choices below, I'd recommend match since it's cheaper and after a few weeks, she'll probably realize her fears were overblown and it will be cheaper to cancel as well.

I hope she has tons of fun!!!

ETA: Cross-posting :) Gaby beat me to google!

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GabyBaby posted 7/10/2013 21:04 PM

How does she make it that her real cell # shows on all calls she makes except to a match person?

I don't use GV often (and haven't used it in ages), but if I recall correctly, she can keep the default phones on her GV account set to her cell phone.
However, when she makes a call to a Match person, she would dial her GV number, followed by a specific character (#, * or something like it). Her GV number would then be the number that shows on the recipient's caller ID.

You can find more details on www.google.com/voice

Catwoman posted 7/10/2013 21:20 PM

I am not actively dating, but I have done the OLD thing on and off for 10 years.

I have never had an issue giving out my cell to someone I met OLD. Ever. I have had the same cell number since 1999, so I understand how your sister feels.

It may be cheaper to be able to block numbers vs. doing some of the other enhanced services.

I had, overall, very positive results on line.

Cat

jo2love posted 7/10/2013 22:09 PM

Thank you, everyone. I am going to let her know when she comes by tomorrow.

cmego posted 7/11/2013 07:58 AM

If I give a guy my phone number, I'm at the point that I've Googled them (by asking for their name) and probably already agreed to a date. I've not had a problem...

She11ybeanz posted 7/11/2013 08:28 AM

yeah.....instead of paying I would just be very selective with who she gives her number out to and if they become a problem....BLOCK them... my plan allows 5 free blocks and I use it occasionally....once someone has been blocked for a few months...she can take them off the list....because "most likely" they have gotten the hint by then...

jo2love posted 7/11/2013 09:29 AM

Good points. Thank you. I think being screamed at for so long by her x, she is a little nervous. I've given her some tips. I'll remind her one step at a time, no rushing, and google him.